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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2012 21:23:33 GMT
I agree with KJM Hats - please don't let him have all his own way - you have the children, so legally you have the upper hand - don't let him walk all over you xx
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Post by brindlerainbow on Oct 5, 2012 21:32:13 GMT
Hats stay strong. Get an agent in next week and give you a valuation, unless the work is structural and the place is falling then just get rid as a spot of decorating won't add any value to it at all. You need closure on this. Definately get advice as he MUST pay maintenance for your girls. The only reason he wants you to carry on living there is so that you can continue cooking and cleaning for him and he dosent fancy the prospect of having to start looking for a place to live and having to stand on his own 2 feet. Don't back down you deserve so much better than him xxxx
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Post by hatman on Oct 5, 2012 21:35:03 GMT
I have done all his washing today i just did it without thinking. Am i met to cook for him the only thing that has changed is that we are not sleeping together.
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Post by brindlerainbow on Oct 5, 2012 21:39:52 GMT
Hats you are no longer a couple he has ended your marriage/relationship. DO NOT do his washing,cooking,cleaning or any of his dirty work. Tell him in no uncertain terms that he is now responsible for feeding and cleaning himself as he will have to when you move out. I know it will be hard but don't show the knob an ounce of weakness. Kick on Hats you can do it!!!
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Post by Julie(luke3) on Oct 5, 2012 21:40:53 GMT
Huge hugs to haggis and hats xxx
Hats, tell him to F off!!!!! Sorry Hun, but it needs to be said x live life for you and the girls xxxxxxx huge hugs xxxxx
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Post by kayjayem on Oct 5, 2012 21:40:52 GMT
I say thats the last time you entertain his drawers!!! Let him fend for himself, who says it's your job to cook, clean and look after him. He wants to be single so he can bugger off and do it!!
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Post by Milliesmum on Oct 5, 2012 21:41:51 GMT
I have done all his washing today i just did it without thinking. Am i met to cook for him the only thing that has changed is that we are not sleeping together. Start as you mean to go on and don't be his doormat. If you're no longer in a relationship he needs to fend for himself. If he wants a maid/housekeeper he needs to pay for one just like anyone else would!! Sorry if that sounds harsh and I really don't mean it to be because you must be having such a rubbish time, but honestly you deserve to be cherished and respected and I don't think he's given you that for a long time. You DO deserve better, don't accept any less from him. |
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Post by hatman on Oct 5, 2012 21:53:42 GMT
Just looking online at houses to rent and found one £155 a month cheaper than the one i saw today for 3 beds that could fund a horse in the future. Im on a roll im going to do this. Thanks for all your support i have not told any people i have to talk face to face to as i will cry. I just find you lot understand xx
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Post by Julie(luke3) on Oct 5, 2012 21:56:11 GMT
I have done all his washing today i just did it without thinking. Am i met to cook for him the only thing that has changed is that we are not sleeping together. Start as you mean to go on and don't be his doormat. If you're no longer in a relationship he needs to fend for himself. If he wants a maid/housekeeper he needs to pay for one just like anyone else would!! Sorry if that sounds harsh and I really don't mean it to be because you must be having such a rubbish time, but honestly you deserve to be cherished and respected and I don't think he's given you that for a long time. You DO deserve better, don't accept any less from him.  So true xxx You go Karen  You know you can do this xxxxxxxx All my love Julie |
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Post by Julie(luke3) on Oct 5, 2012 21:56:58 GMT
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Post by brindlerainbow on Oct 5, 2012 22:01:03 GMT
You are being really positive about it which is good. We are all behind you Hats every step of the way. Be polite to him but from now on you must lead seperate lives. Don't be tempted if he comes waving his tackle at you in an attempt to win you over either, that is a definate no no xxxxx
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Post by hatman on Oct 5, 2012 22:12:04 GMT
I think a trip to Ann summers may be in order he wont be able to compete with rabbit
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Post by brindlerainbow on Oct 5, 2012 22:15:48 GMT
Thats the spirit Hats, also you won't have to feed the rabbit or wash its dirty socks and pants........
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Post by hatman on Oct 5, 2012 22:16:52 GMT
And if it plays up you just replace it
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Post by dazycutter on Oct 6, 2012 4:16:31 GMT
loti there is nothing not to love about your boy True... but he is the biggest Diva ever.... ;D ;D ;D He was in a grump yesterday as it was feed time and he wanted his NOW and FIRST.. funny little man... |
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Post by hatman on Oct 6, 2012 5:26:18 GMT
Ive been awake for ages so have got up to get ready for the gala .
Have a good day everyone
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Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2012 7:20:35 GMT
loti there is nothing not to love about your boy True... but he is the biggest Diva ever.... ;D ;D ;D He was in a grump yesterday as it was feed time and he wanted his NOW and FIRST.. funny little man... Thank you Lukey Dazy, he's just like his Mum ......................... ;D ;D ;D ;D Hats I can only imagine how awful this all is for you. But everyone on FC has absolutely hit the nail on the head! And it sounds to me as if your ex has spent many many years chipping away at your confidence until you now feel obliged to wait on him, hand and foot. The only thing you can do is break this habit NOW - no more cooking for him, cleaning for him or washing for him. And as for sleeping with him?? Give me a rabbit any day  Lots of hugs darling - not only will you get through this but you will be a happier woman in the end I promise xxx |
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Post by cheetham on Oct 6, 2012 8:04:43 GMT
morning all,hugs to lukey,hats and haggis.....
welll i had an amazing day at hoys,watched lots of lovely ponies ate lots of nice things,and bought a few stocking fillers,was just perfect....
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Post by kilnstown on Oct 6, 2012 8:23:03 GMT
Cheetham Hoys is my new favourite show, I am hoping that next year, it dosnt clash with my favourite tup sale and I can go and stay for a few more days.
Hatman, thats the spirit, kick on and stay strong xxx
Loads and loads and loads of house work today, o joy.
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Post by olliemat on Oct 6, 2012 8:30:11 GMT
Big hugs hats xx be strong and brave I have nothing to add to what everyone else has said. We are all behind you Haggis give Alice a huge hug  and one for yourself xx Thinking of you Julie xx Cheetham tell me more about your coloured lr? What classes do you show him/her in? Any photos? Hope everyone has a good day. Wish I was at hoys today my friend has a 122 shp just in the ring now, I'm going to have no nails left!!!! |
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Post by sageandonion on Oct 6, 2012 10:27:10 GMT
Don't get it, who is Rabbit  Just been to jumping clinic, daughter not me. Why do people not school horses on the flat before they jump? |
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Post by brindlerainbow on Oct 6, 2012 10:37:56 GMT
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Post by haggismarmite on Oct 6, 2012 10:53:29 GMT
On train to London for our ice creams! Well our friends have all had amazing hoys one just won 13hh shp which is incredible!!! Now wishing we had won lottery and could get a hoys quality pony for next year  . Oh well tough back down level to pony club next year Have good day hats and everyone beautiful sunshine in london |
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Post by olliemat on Oct 6, 2012 10:54:44 GMT
Lol Sagey don't ever change!!
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Post by cheetham on Oct 6, 2012 11:42:53 GMT
ollie we have a pony called southillfarm toyboy,hes 12hh coloured and beautifull...
kilnstown,would you tell me about the pony you know about....
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Post by cheetham on Oct 6, 2012 12:14:49 GMT
oooh i have goose bumps my lovely friend has just won hoys with her 15hh shp....lucy glover and red cap zilla.
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Post by olliemat on Oct 6, 2012 12:25:32 GMT
ollie we have a pony called southillfarm toyboy,hes 12hh coloured and beautifull... kilnstown,would you tell me about the pony you know about.... just found a photo! super sort  Are there many classes for lr with chaps? or do you mainly show him in shp classes? |
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Post by cheetham on Oct 6, 2012 12:29:17 GMT
there are a few lr coloured classes and also at the chaps champs there are a few,he was lead rein winner there this year and reserve mini supreme to ashlan after eight...
we have done hoys q in the lead rein shp and have had some super days very narrowly missing out on q,like at mid herts we were pulled in top we had a shower of rain,he doesnt like rain and fidgeted so dropped,then two minuetes later the sun was out,but heyho it wasnt ment this year...but we have found from the older judges they have been very colour prejuidice and not liked...
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Post by olliemat on Oct 6, 2012 12:43:06 GMT
thanks for that cheetham I may have more questions yet! See the coloured in my pictures below, she is 4 next year and it's all very new to me, always shown sec a's. I think she is more sp! wonder what the judges will think of a coloured sp?
Well done sounds like you have had a super season ;D
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Post by kilnstown on Oct 6, 2012 13:45:34 GMT
Hi Cheetham yes, the pony is advertised on here in the WHP section, Kinkryhill is the posters name, there daughter has just turned 11, and they live near me, and I regularly see her hacking out alone on it, past big log wagons the works, photo dont do it any favours its not a hoys pony but has done well showing and is a great allrounder.
The Housework is going badly, finished the bathroom and the vat return, now very bored with it.
I need ideas for a present for my parents Ruby wedding anniversary next weekend, they tell me they dont want anything or a fuss, but I will have to do somthing, any ideas please ladies.
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You know you can do this xxxxxxxx
. Oh well tough back down level to pony club next year