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Post by s.smith on Mar 8, 2009 18:39:39 GMT
I'm fed up! There is one girl who I try to be soooo nice to and I am never horrid to at all and I just get a load of nastiness said to by face and behind my back! She's such a nasty girl but seems to get whatever she wants and she isn't happy unless that's what she's getting. I just give up   |
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Post by dun4u on Mar 8, 2009 18:57:53 GMT
Speaking from experience of many years, I know these sort of girls can be quite hateful. Personally, I would feel quite sorry for her. It's a vicious circle - girls like this are craving for attention no matter how they get it, even if it means turning everyone against them. There are a few girls who just can't help themselves. Sometimes it is because they are insecure and are rather jealous of others, even if they seem to have all they want. I'm afraid it is often just human nature, particulartly found in adolescent girs. I know it would probably go against the grain but try being extra nice to her just to see what her reaction is. If you can get to know the other side of her she could see the error of her ways and become a friend. These people are often very unhappy and you might be able to really change things for the better, if you wanted to. Good luck in whatever you do.  |
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Post by s.smith on Mar 8, 2009 19:06:07 GMT
I do try and be extra nice to her! I put so much effort into it but she just embarrasses me infront of people and is just generally a hateful person. It has got to the point where I just want to scream 'WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM?!'...
But I have come to the current thought that life is to short to be wasted on people like that... I could drop down dead tomorrow so why should I waste my time thinking about her! I should be having fun!
grrr school hey?! lol
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Post by Milliesmum on Mar 8, 2009 19:24:45 GMT
I think a lot of horsey girls get grief at school, don't know whether it's jealousy or what, my friends daughter had to move schools, she was getting called rich b*tch (she's neither!), and other general nastiness, I think they think horsey people are snobs, if only they could see us up to the elbows in muck!
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Post by s.smith on Mar 8, 2009 19:31:14 GMT
I'm in my GCSE year and moving after my exams! Not because of the girl though as that would be her winning... I'm going to a school so I'm closer to home (And the yard!!)
Can't wait till I can ride my horse again... it's a good way to convert stress into happiness! lol
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Post by welshcob7 on Mar 8, 2009 20:33:08 GMT
i would just ignore her, she just wants attention and is probly lonely. but ignoring her will make her see being nasty is not the way to get attention
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Post by s.smith on Mar 8, 2009 20:41:43 GMT
Yeah... I'm just going to ignore her now! I have 2 months till my exams start and don't need the drama. I have tried appologising to her, but at the end of the day... WHAT FOR?!
I think it's the same in some aspects of showing though... you get girls like this everywhere!
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Post by dun4u on Mar 8, 2009 22:04:20 GMT
"I think it's the same in some aspects of showing though... you get girls like this everywhere!"
That, I'm afraid, is oh so true!!
Rise above it and you'll do OK!
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Post by s.smith on Mar 9, 2009 7:37:31 GMT
I just don't understand why people just can't be nice all the time!
Surely it's much better being known as a nice person rather than a b***h??
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Post by sallyw on Mar 9, 2009 7:47:35 GMT
As you get older you will realise that Life's too short for nasty people. Often they are nasty to you becasue they are jealous of you in some way - you should see some of the flak I get by email and often to my face just because I have had horse books published. It doesnt mean I know it all - it just means I have assembled the facts together in a book. Be strong - dont let people like this upset yoou. Good Luck.
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Post by wobbles on Mar 9, 2009 8:02:30 GMT
You will as you mature get to know who is worth the effort, it seems there are some people put on this Earth just to upset others, don't get drawn into it. There will always be the "in" crowd with it's "in" leader, but believe me these "leaders" aren't happy they rule by mostly fear, and the lackeys that surround them, they are all probably unhappy and take it out on "nicer" people, why?? BECAUSE THEY CAN, don't let them, I know how difficult it must be, but rise above it and count your blessings in that you don't feel the need to go out and intimidate anyone.  |
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Post by pigsear on Mar 9, 2009 9:33:28 GMT
I know it is hard being bullied but you must report this! It may stop this girl bullying somebody else! I really feel strongly about this as I was bullied at school and it was the worse time of my life. |
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Post by heathers on Mar 9, 2009 12:52:52 GMT
bullying is my pet hate.just put it in your head that you are a better person than she is.
look at all the good nice friends you got on this site.
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Post by pinkgirly on Mar 9, 2009 14:44:40 GMT
bullying is my pet hate too I was bullied at school & then later in my teens early twenties I now look back at these people with pity rather than anger, especially when I found out one of the bullies ( I am now friends with her  ) picked on me because I was slim & she wasn't, & she thought because of this I got everything I wanted ( trust me i didn't ) I know its hard but you really are doing the right thing by ignoring her, she will be doing it for a silly reason although its not silly to you as you are the one suffering, I agree with pigear, you really must report this Wishing you all the luck in the world with sorting this out xxx |
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Post by s.smith on Mar 9, 2009 20:51:51 GMT
Thanks guys... grinning at the responses on here!
I'm not sure what she is jealous of at all and I don't know if you would class it as bullying but more just being snidey! I am sure she willl get her comeuppance though... everyone does right? even though karma no longer exists on HG it does in real life hey? hehe xx
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Post by dun4u on Mar 9, 2009 22:03:05 GMT
"even though karma no longer exists on HG it does in real life hey?"
It sure does, one way or another!
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Post by wobbles on Mar 10, 2009 10:19:18 GMT
What goes around comes around, yes there is Karma in the real World |
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Post by sarah00000 on Mar 10, 2009 21:00:32 GMT
I had a groom once, who used to sulk and bit*h about me. I was so nice to her and the sulkier she got, the nicer I would treat her. One day I lost my rag and tried to fire her, at which point she cried. I told her how horrible she was and how unhappy she made me. From that day on, I ignored her, if she came in to work in a bad mood. The more I ignored her, the harder she tried to get me to speak to her. "Monty Roberts" approach I called it.
Dont shout at her, dont bit*h at her, just rise above her. If she comes running and begs to be a friend, then think about it hard. If she doesnt, what have you lost? Honestly, there are some good things about being OLDER, and not pandering to bit*hiness is very LIBERATING.
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Post by s.smith on Mar 10, 2009 22:33:59 GMT
She did get 100% ignored today!
Thank you all by the way!
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Post by Ziggy on Mar 18, 2009 14:45:34 GMT
Good job you ignored that girl. People like that are just worth giving the time of day to. She probably is just jealous of you.
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Post by rightrein92 on Mar 21, 2011 14:16:05 GMT
i had grief at schoolw who were bit*hy ,i did use to turn up with bits of hay stuck in my hair though ;D ignore her and stick to your own group of friends if i were you i just wouldnt bother with her xx
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Post by FF on Mar 21, 2011 14:30:51 GMT
I went through the same thing at school. we had been friends for years but she was 'the leader'of our group. She was always telling me to do this n that and if i didn't she'd call me names etc. One day she 'told' me to get ehr a fork and I just ignored her, again she said and I just said 'get it yourself' Well her face was a picture, she said if I didn't go get it she wouldn't be my friend anymore and neither would all the others. I said FINE, see if I care. For weeks I walked to school by myself and I wasn't talked to by any of them. I was really upset but I didn't give in (blood y minded you see) then one by one the others stood up to her and became MY friend. the bully ended up with no friends and collected herself some younger recruits from the year below. Her top dog status was never the same again.
This person was my friend from primary school and our parents were friends too. She just thought she could get what she wanted which was the case at home. I wasn't standing for it.
I se eher now and her daughter is just the same. lol
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Post by mcw on Mar 21, 2011 17:26:04 GMT
there's a girl like this in my year, she spreads so many lie's and all she gets back is hatred from her friends because she won't stop lying!
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Post by rightrein92 on Mar 21, 2011 17:27:48 GMT
urgh the compulsive liar type.....................= avoid!x
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Post by Nikki on Mar 23, 2011 18:09:51 GMT
Rise above it. I was friends with someone and they used and abused me then tried to call me two faced when i moved on and found out that the people that they all bit*hed about and told me to avoid were actually nicer than them. The horsey world is starnge and people will pick you up and drop you when it suits them, your better off staying out of things and keeping your own counsel. I now have a VERY SMALL cluster of people (handful at best) who i keep in contact with and respect as they are genuiniely nice people  keep your head high and ignore the bit*hy ones, there are nice epople out there deserving of your friendship xx |
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Post by showing4life on Mar 23, 2011 18:41:10 GMT
I think a lot of horsey girls get grief at school, don't know whether it's jealousy or what, my friends daughter had to move schools, she was getting called rich b*tch (she's neither!), and other general nastiness, I think they think horsey people are snobs, if only they could see us up to the elbows in muck! Agree with this^^ I don't think other girls of our age can see why we would rather go home straight after school and ride our ponies instead of hanging around school for hourse doing nothing:/ Or how we can't go to a sleepover on Saturday night because we've to get up at 5 for a show the next morning...But you know what I wouldn't swap it for anything ;D |
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Post by pipandwill on Mar 23, 2011 19:28:24 GMT
I have this one girl at my yard, she is really horrible, she had a massive swearing fit at me yesterday, when my mum came back from work I burst into tears. Mum said just rise above it, dont react, that would be being as low as her.
Also, at school, because when I died my hair, it went wrong and went a golden blonde, people call me ginger, but to be honest, I just say "So" I really just cant be bothered with these people any more, why stoop as low as them?
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Post by roxanne1 on Mar 23, 2011 19:50:58 GMT
Don't stoop to there level.. It will annoy her more if you ignore her & you don't need people like this anyway. It will also make you the better person and she will realise this in the end! Horsey people should stick together and to there ponies anyway haha  .. Good luck in your exams & keep smiling!! x |
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Post by pipandwill on Mar 23, 2011 20:08:46 GMT
Defo, its not me being chessey but, when we are about showing or whatever, it seems like we are in a total diffferent world.
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Post by roxanne1 on Mar 23, 2011 20:14:56 GMT
Ye i agree ^^ We know most people even if we have never spoke to them before haha! We not all the same like i'd speak to anyone when out showing and some people wont but i get ur drift with being in a dif world.
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keep your head high and ignore the bit*hy ones, there are nice epople out there deserving of your friendship xx
.. Good luck in your exams & keep smiling!! x