issac
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Post by issac on Sept 28, 2009 15:06:37 GMT
this year alone i have heard nothing but malicious or jealous attacks on fellow competitors either they have won a major champ or qualified for a big show eg hoys or rihs makes you wonder why bother. come on people lets get real you are only winining a rossie may be a little cash why be so spiteful and make constant objections theres a great saying" if you cant take the heat get out of the kitchen" if you are one of these bitter twisted people that are eaten up with jealousy stop showing you are not doing the sport any favours and frankly you are ill to behave in that kind of manor. now let people enjoy their sport with out all these objections.
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Post by cassie30 on Sept 28, 2009 16:40:01 GMT
Life is like that and i dont think it will change anytime soon. I too have been in that boat lovepink, it is not nice.
I bring the kids up to congratulate those above and below them, whether it be showing, jumping, football or athletics they are brought up to not be jealous, but to try as hard as possible, to never sulk or take it out on the ponies, or other people.
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Post by cassie30 on Sept 28, 2009 17:35:59 GMT
Oh i have been warned many times about people and chose to make my own mind up, still do and still get hurt, hopefully the kids wont be as soft when they grow up! I hate to look at it like that though, it saddens me.
But as long as they are not the one's being malicious and jealous, well i will know i have done a grand job! Im trying anyway!
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Post by elliebee on Sept 29, 2009 19:43:36 GMT
Exactly cassie30 and there are tons and tons of other really genuine/kind/honest good guys out there in life.  However the bad losers/nasty spiteful gossips/downright liars spoil everything for everybody eles and no-one knows who to believe, until they find out the hard way, who the bad ones are.......  I was warned about the women who did it to me, but I always try and judge people for myself and not listen to hearsay. Unfortunately my naivity came back to bite me on the bum!  Lovepink your not alone, think we must of been seperated at birth LOLxx I too don't listen too hearsay and give everyone a chance, sometimes wish I'd did listen xxx |
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Post by zara on Oct 3, 2009 19:12:40 GMT
what annoys me is when you see riders deliberately trying to cut up others or try to upset horses or ponies but running up behind them i think some riders actions can be quite malicious
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Post by cassie30 on Oct 3, 2009 19:45:32 GMT
Oh yes zara, they can be vile, especially when picking on children in championships! is so rude! so desperate for ribbons some would do anything, shame, i thought showing was a "sport".
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Post by Giddie on Oct 4, 2009 10:09:28 GMT
The answer to it all is if you don't win much or very rarely do well in the ring then nobody talks about you. That's why l am happy in my own little world guaranteed to always finish way down the line. The positive is l have something to work towards...At least l am happy with what l have at home and what l show, and when we do do well, albeit very rarely, it makes it all worth while.
I have learnt in the showing world not to have views or opinions, because some people automatically somehow internalise this as being a bad loser or identify you as being jealous.
Judges generally do a good job in my opinion and l think it is so easy to say that a judge is facey because they always opt for the same pony/ same type of pony, that is consistencey. I do believe that it is the responsibility of the judge to clamp down on bad manners and bad behaviour in the ring ie "cutting up others, running up others backsides".
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Post by cassie30 on Oct 4, 2009 10:21:44 GMT
Wholeheartedly agree Giddie. I have known judges bring a class to a standstill when these kind of things have happened and warned the competitors to quit!
Needs to happen more often, but i do think the individual should display manners in the first place, there seems to be a lack of manners generally in life, how hard is it to say please or thankyou in any circumstance? no one seems to want to help, people watch others struggle and dont offer assistance, the world is becoming a very sad place.
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Post by sarah00000 on Oct 4, 2009 10:43:00 GMT
I went to a BIG dressage comp, where some top riders were competing. There was only 2 amateur riders, including me.
My mare had won it as a 4 yr old. I didnt have a caller. This really LOUD lady insisted that she called for me which I thought was kind......
We were warming up together and she was watching my mare, through the corner of her eye.
She was on a fabulous horse, that I am sure would have beaten us anyway.
However, when she called my test, she very blatently called it wrong for me! When I looked at her, she looked me straight back in the eye. She was smirking!
She went on to win. I would rather come last in everything, than be a nasty cheat. Left me feeling very sad and I wouldnt rush to compete against the BIG GUNS again.
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Post by cassie30 on Oct 4, 2009 10:59:40 GMT
Dear god, thats not nice!
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Post by brindlerainbow on Oct 4, 2009 14:24:53 GMT
lovepink what an evil witch she was!!!!!!!!!!!!!! nasty old bag  |
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Post by brt on Oct 4, 2009 17:07:22 GMT
I LOVE it when people make nasty comments about me!
I smile politely and inwardly i laugh because if they feel i'm a threat i must be good !!!lol
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Post by Giddie on Oct 4, 2009 17:51:01 GMT
Good on yer brt
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Babieca
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Post by Babieca on Oct 4, 2009 18:46:47 GMT
I LOVE it when people make nasty comments about me! I smile politely and inwardly i laugh because if they feel i'm a threat i must be good !!!lol Thats absolutely true. I had a not-quite-such-a-friend be very btchy behind my back and treat me terribly due to my (small!) successes as she deemed herself to be a showing expert (and told everyone she has qualified her pony for HOYS) but didnt get anywhere near the results we were getting. |
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Post by BelmontShowTeam on Oct 4, 2009 19:30:09 GMT
before I could drive or aford a trailer or wagon cc and I used to hack to shows her on the pony and me with a rucksack on an old bike, I asked some one at the cross roads in a wagon, which way to the show field she smiled sweetly and told me the way an hour later we were still trying to f ind the show, she had sent us the wrong way. we did eventually get there several classes missed but still managed to beat her lot in a jumping class. needless to say she didn´t offer a lift back home,
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Post by rover on Oct 4, 2009 23:06:01 GMT
I think the morel is watch your back to all!  |
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Post by kickon on Oct 7, 2009 18:54:16 GMT
Just ignor them. Ride over them if they get in the way.
Do as you will be done by!! If people are nice to me then everthing is rosey.
Life is far to short to let pratts get in the way of you having some fun
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Post by topdog on May 20, 2010 5:45:10 GMT
It makes you wonder how people can have horses when they act like this towards others in the ring.
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Post by mcw on May 20, 2010 17:18:01 GMT
i agree u go girl or boy x
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Post by dawnie on May 20, 2010 18:04:38 GMT
Although I show, the one thing I hate is the bit*hing! Why can people just not be pleased for somebody who has done well? I have often thought there ought to a good sports person award, as there are some out there who deserve it. It's time some of those who dont sit in the ribbons all the time, but carry on regardless with a smile as well got some of the limelight.
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Post by darts on May 30, 2010 20:33:36 GMT
i completely agree that if they are bit*hing about you, you're probably quite good!! Good luck to anyone that wants to cut me up...... i have a highland and i'm not afraid to use it......... as a battering ram!!!! I do hate bad manners though there is just no need, it's all supposed to be fun!
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Post by castanyamoonlite on Jun 1, 2010 13:25:30 GMT
Last year at the Royal Highland my brother was riding my pony in. A chestnut pony came ramming into him. The producer screamed at my brother insulting him and saying he cut the pony up. They didn't realise I was behind them listening to what they were saying. The next time my pony trotted round she woman motioned to kick him very close to his back end. I was tempted to ask her calmly what her issue was, but decided against it. I think it's awful that some people could be so blatantly disrespectful to other cometitors especially at something like the Highland Show.
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Post by iluvmyponies on Jun 5, 2010 13:26:15 GMT
I have to admit, when i was younger, i used to get really nnoyed when i didn't win and always used to complain to my mum that i should have been higher. A couple of years ago i realised, if the judges had me where i was, i must of deserved to be there. Im only 13 & im sure nearly all judges know better than me!  I just smile all the time know, congradulate those above & below me x |
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Post by sometime on Jun 8, 2010 23:13:30 GMT
I have to admit, when i was younger, i used to get really nnoyed when i didn't win and always used to complain to my mum that i should have been higher. A couple of years ago i realised, if the judges had me where i was, i must of deserved to be there. Im only 13 & im sure nearly all judges know better than me! I just smile all the time know, congradulate those above & below me x And I hope your family are very proud of you what a mature and delightful young lady you must be |
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Post by dawnie on Jun 9, 2010 0:05:30 GMT
I have to admit, when i was younger, i used to get really nnoyed when i didn't win and always used to complain to my mum that i should have been higher. A couple of years ago i realised, if the judges had me where i was, i must of deserved to be there. Im only 13 & im sure nearly all judges know better than me! I just smile all the time know, congradulate those above & below me x Awe what a lovely girl x |
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Post by dawnie on Jun 9, 2010 16:23:58 GMT
Honestly if people can't cope with the "stress" of keeping their nasty thoughts to themselves or in the very least show some sort of intelligence by at least being constructive in their critisim... then they need to go home and take up some other sport like boxing or something ... manager you anger or channel it elsewhere!!!!
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Post by ladywell on Nov 13, 2011 21:26:40 GMT
I have been involved in showing Welsh A and B's for many years. Some people new to showing are not nice!! On the whole, the in hand showing world is a community - always willing to help their friends. There is one lady (who I will not name but wins a lot with her stock - major winner at R Welsh) Who, ever since I have known her, smiles wherever she is placed and comes out of the ring and congratulates the winner. That is a true showing/pony person - KC if you are on here you will know I mean you!! |
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Post by ilovemyponies on Nov 13, 2011 21:52:57 GMT
Unfortunately i have seen and heard alot of malicious and jealous parents over the years. Shouting comments at children as they ride passed. What colour green they must wake up in the morning i dont know. The parents should be setting a good example to their kids  |
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Post by dai7y on Nov 14, 2011 11:48:49 GMT
I find if your not doing well in the horse world, then people are nice to you as they dont see you as a threat. Once you start doing well, thats when the nastiness starts. I find it amusing and a compliment. On the other note, i was a t a show yesterday and i have a cob, a teenager on a sec b kept cutting me up, at first i thought it was a accident but she did it too many times. I nthe line up i made sure i was stood next to her and leaned over and said if she everycut my horse up like that again i would knock her off the pony, she looked at me and smiling she said "bring it on, bit*h, it was fun to watch you getting mad" After the class i killed said teenager,,,i wish
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Post by stumpedmum on Nov 14, 2011 13:21:22 GMT
there are some horrible, nasty soulless people out there! when I was young, (13) I worked my backside off with a novice mare, who had a nasty habit of rearing/refusing/spooking/bolting ( a truly delightful creature I must say!) and after 18 months of intense lessons, working hard and failing miserably in the jumping ring, things started to come together and we began to do well. Lo and behold, best friend of 10 years suddenly falls out with me, her parents used to point and laugh when I made a mistake (they also used to get their friends attention to laugh too, and try to take pictures!). Sadly, I was way to insecure to stand up for myself, which led to horrors I will not go into on here.
When I competed, I was taught to be nice to everyone, not strop and be a good loser! Shame some people aren't the same!
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