The loss of Horse or Pony

[ria]

I just wondered if other people felt the same. I lost my mare two years ago on November 14th. She was with me for 19yrs and the bond i had with her was incredible, it was like we were one.I still cannot seem to come to terms with her not being here. I still have her rugs and head collars, in fact everything that belonged to her. I cannot look at her picture without crying as i am now. Does this pain ever go away...or am i just an adult needing to grow up

[culcheth1]

My boy was pts 2 years ago on 12th November.

Everyone deals with these things differently. I have only kept one lead rope of his....................all his rugs, tack etc have been sold or given to friends. I just couldn't bear to have them around doing nothing and just reminding me of him...................

I have a rose in the garden that a friend bought me the day he died - that is enough for me...............

I now have lots of sad feelings when I think of him but can now think of the happy/fun times too....................I get pleasure from seeing my friend ride her horse in his old bridle...............

Hope you begin to feel better soon.........may be consider donating all the rugs etc to a horse charity in her name?
xx

[nightwish]

hi my friend has just recently lost her horse, she had her cemated and bought a big flower pot and lovely flowers and put the ashes in there, they still wont sell her rugs etc... But are considing selling the saddle. You have to do things in your own way and time. Hope you feel better soon xx

[beachbum12]

I have a bench we bought when my pony I had had 27 years died , we had plaques made for him and the 3 others we had lost over the years to put on it, but years later I still cant bring myself to fix the plaques on , its outside my stable block and we sit on it every day , I have tons of pics of them all all round the house and special rosettes from each of them up here an dthere , it does get easier but you never stop missing them , one day you can look at the pictures with a smile, but I guess I have been helped enormously in my losses by the fact that we had 4 more who are all here who need me and they above all else have helped me through, another horse is a great healer

[Deleted]

My boy was put down 5 years ago after a prolonged illness and rubbish vets, i still to this day cannot talk about it and i am welling up writing this, i thought there is no point dwelling on the past after saying i was never having another horse, so 2 years ago a bought a foal and i now have mare too. I still think about him every day and he taught me so much, the pain does ease, but you dont have to forget to feel better about your girl she will always be with you. if i get sad i always think of what he taught me and look at the two beautiful horses i have now, and they wouldnt be here with me if it wasnt for Herbie.

[suzee]

Happy memories will eventually replace your sadness,but it is hard to bear until that time comes,

[heathers]

i lost a foal this spring,only had her for a day but i slept in the stable with her and bottle fed her through the night,i took her straight to the vets as soon as they opened but she died a few hours later,she was also blind in one eye so maybe it was for the best,i still get upset as i put so much into those 24 hrs.RIP MYSTERY
ive also had heartache over my cats in the last year and i sometimes feel it would be better if i didnt have any pets and ponies

[fairleykismet]

I lost one of my mares 2 weeks ago. I wont be selling any of her things, i miss her everyday but know we did the right thing in letting her go. The first week after loosing her i thought it would never get better and wanted to be at the yard all the time as i felt i was closer to her there. Its getting easier now but i think about her everyday and still get upset when people ask what had happened.

[shadylady]

I lost my mare 2yrs ago on the 28th October due to a tragic accident, she was also in foal but was too early to save it. She was my pride and joy and i think of her everyday. What i do have though is two of her youngsters and they both have a resemblence of her which makes me smile. The stud offered us a free covering which was really nice of them so this year her daughter gave us a lovely foal.

It is hard but i think you learn to appreciate all the times you had with them she was truely amazing and will never be forgotten.

[ria]

I just thought that after nearly two years i would have reached the top and coming down the other side, but its not happening. I have thought about another horse but i do not think i could bond with another horse. I am not ready to give my heart to another and that would not be fair. My husband is very supportive with kind words but he is not as they say "Horsey" and does not understand the connection you can have with an animal. All the years of building trust, she so taught me to say please and corrected me when i was wrong. She would drive me to distraction in the stable when i was doing something and when i got to the moment that i was going to lose the will to live...she would walk over to me, put her head on my shoulder and nuzzle my neck...how could i not love her to bits. Sorry if i am going on, its the first time i have been able to write and say what i feel...to people with no faces, but will understand every word i have said :)Thank you for listening, and your kind words, it is much appreciated

[beauty2004]

I to cannot get over the loss of my daughters beloved first pony Spirit. I only hope that it gets easier with time. We have good days and bad days but not a day goes by that we dont think about him. Your not alone xxxx

[ria]

I have read every reply and you all have such said stories to tell. Sadly when we are allowed to take one of these beautiful animals under our wings, we have to some times play god and make decisions that break our hearts, all you can do is look into their eyes and some how they manage to tell you, in their own way...this is the time.....

[elliecustard]

I know exactly how you feel I lost my beautiful mare 18months ago and can't describe the feeling of utter despair of loosing her , I had waited years to buy my first horse and at the age of 40 I got her. I had her for 12 wonderful years and like you I can't seem to get over it . I thought it was me being pathetic I haven't bought another one as I believe in a home for life and I couldn't put myself through that again, however I still get up at 5 30 everyday and go and help with my daughters ponies not the same but it helps

[heathers]

i got an arab mare that needs to be PTS,she came as a rescue last year and is very old and now her leg is very deformed and has started losing weight.she will go to sleep before the end of the month

[ria]

Oct 15, 2010 9:31:31 GMT heathers said:

i got an arab mare that needs to be PTS,she came as a rescue last year and is very old and now her leg is very deformed and has started losing weight.she will go to sleep before the end of the month

Oh I am so sorry to hear this, my heart goes out to you. I know you will be strong for her, my thoughts are with you x

[delfachhighwayman]

Hi Ria

I lost my beautiful boy 3 months ago due to Liver failure and I still think about him every day. I felt better when I had his ashes back and I was surprised how much I appreciated being given his shoes as they were burnt off, it made me feel close to him when I held them.

I spread his ashes in my parents garden and it brings me comfort to walk around the garden knowing he is there.

I felt lost without him and I had the last few moments when I walked him out to the field with his best friend, past the yard owners for the last time where he was put to sleep in the field with his best pal next to him and me cradling his head.
I now reflect on those moments in a postive light as I am glad I had the opportunity to do best by my boy when he needed it and in the way that I think he would have wanted it.

I know that it is not the end and that I will see him again one day, but in the mean time I must be greatful for all of the good times and use everything he has taught me to do well in life!

I hope you eventually find the peace you are looking for, and Just remember its not the end and you will see your best friend again.xx

[rypw]

my goodness, i am sat in the office at work with tears in my eyes reading these posts.... so emotional, i look so silly

[bumblebee]

Oct 15, 2010 14:42:22 GMT delfachhighwayman said:

I lost my beautiful boy 3 months ago due to Liver failure and I still think about him every day. I felt better when I had his ashes back and I was surprised how much I appreciated being given his shoes as they were burnt off, it made me feel close to him when I held them.

I spread his ashes in my parents garden and it brings me comfort to walk around the garden knowing he is there.

This is so simular to what happened with my boy. The hardest bit was waiting for his ashes to be returned because I hated not knowing where he was. It was a huge relief to finally get him home, and bury him next to my friends old horse - it was comforting to know that they were together. I was devestated when I lost Bug, and I still miss him so much. There isn't a day goes by when I don't think of him, and I often still cry over him. He was my dream pony who I'd waited nearly 15 years for - I only got to spend 2 months with him before he had to be pts due to liver failure. Although he was so young (6) and his life was so unfairly cut short, I take some comfort in the fact that during the 2 months he spent with us, he had the time of his life. He lived every day to the full and was always so happy and content.

I agree with shadylady - you have to remember the good times. I know that in just 2 months I had the most fantastic memories with Bug, and often smile to think of them. I don't think the pain ever completely goes, but over time you'll be able to smile about the good times rather than cry when you think about your mare.

[twiglet1]

I lost my stunning beautiful boy 7yrs ago , i miss him so much and find myself always trying to fill the big void it left me with , i cannot bring myself to read all your posts even after all this time ,
you do learn to have good days and life still goes on ... you never forget and may have a deep sense of loss like me , i like to think when my time comes he will be waiting for his mummy x

[barclaybob]

My princess bob was put down 12 months ago tomorrow (16/10/09) i miss him like mad he was the horse of a life time and I will never replace him with the same character, temperament or ability! I have another now and will never give up horses but Bob will always be my superstar I will miss him forever! I sold his saddle etc cos I didn't need them but I have kept the bits that I need for my 2 year old (in years to come) and also his show rugs and fancy brow bands. I'll never forget him but I now have Tilly and have to try and do her justice to the level that Bob did me justice!!!
xxx

[delfachhighwayman]

Ria/ BumbleBee

I think its a very hard thing to deal with the concept of never seeing someone again. I think thats why a lot of people turn to their faiths to fill the void and seek comfort. All I know is that my relationship with Otis was so deep and magical. I was suffering badly at school when I was lucky enough to have him. I had been bullied while I was sent to boarding school, and I felt let down by my parents that it took them so long to take me away from that prison and let me come home.

My life turned around when I was allowed to have otis, as I spent so many warm sunny evenings just "pootling" around with him in our own little world. He gave me the close relationship I so badly craved and he believed in me and looked up to me like no one else in the world would at that time.

I was just 13 and he was 4 and so we were babies together and grew up together and we were unseperable.

When I lost him I had come to realise he was no longer a baby and was truly a prince, he was an angel and I genuinely think if God was looking for the perfect person, he was that. I think I believe in re encarnation and each time we come back we learn, and from that we become better people. He was on his last visit and he had found perfection and now I just know he is with the stars.

Otis came out of saddness when my grandparents were taken away from us in a plane crash, I used my inheratance from them and found a best friend and the best memories I could ever wish for.

Please remember and hold on to the fact that we are all so lucky to have been touched by such special friends. Remember that whenever you are sad because not everyone gets such a special gift x

[leahwright]

oh my all your stories are heartbreaking.
i am so saddened to hear all of these stories you are all very brave
xxxxxxxxxx

[ponykat]

When i lost dynamite i could not bear me not loseing anything of his. I kept all his tack in my room and would sleep with his rug over me crying.

[sandraharrison395]

i lost my first horse 4 years ago, i bought her as a mad 3 year old
chestnut mare, we had many good and bad times together over the years, and she was put to sleep at the ripe old age of 27
not bad for a thoroughbred, she had 1 foal at the age of 17
and she reminds me of her mum everytime i look at her which
does help and if im feeling sad i just think of her running
around at rainbow bridge, and time does help to heal the loss
but i will never forget her

[ria]

so many people feeling their loss, how silly was i to think i was the only one, but so comforting to know that i am not being dramatic and needing to get a grip of myself. x

[lillicob]

I dont think you ever get over the loss.
Itll be 3 years in march since we lost our section a mare. I still have a rug of hers left and i will never part with it. I put it on another pony i was looking after once and i filled up just seeing it.
Still look at pictures and cry. We had her for 12 years, she was a little monkey at times and at the age of 18 we still couldnt catch her in the field she used to bring herself in at night.
We have lost 2 animals this year within a space of 2 months and were informed by our vet that our old show cob mare has a condition that will never get better and if with pain killers isnt comfortable should be pts.

Losing our little mare was heartbreaking and nearly made me give up horses to be honest. If anything happened to the 3 i have now i think i would, i cant cope with it.

[traceycassels]

my mare Raemoir Debut ( april ) died last september and i still cry everyday for her i miss her so much she was only 14 yrs old when the farmer i rent from fertilized the field and she was poisioned from the fertilizer which he told me was safe and he has never said sorry for what he done the day she died part of me died too i miss her so much lifes not the same and never will be

[morse]

I lost my horse Oct 2008. He was 22 and had colic. I was heartbroken and there when he was put to sleep, I never have and never will sob like I did that day i felt like my heart was been ripped out. Not a day goes by without me having a cry. I'd owned him for ten years and he was like a proper person, always seemed to know what I was thinking and feeling. He made me so proud, he was Supreme Champion vetran at the Royal London Show 2007 I have my pictures but it's not the same and I'd give anything to have him back home.....

[hvm]

We had a 13 hh workers pony that i had for nearly 5 years and we had a little rider who came and had lessons on him every week for a year who we eventually sold him to.. He unfortunately had to be pts soon after due to getting laminitis and i was still played a big part in looking after him and helping the girl out who bought him. They had him creamated and we both spread his ashes across the field he was in with his mates. They kept his stuff but put it into good use with there new pony they bought, I have a lock of his mane in a memory box and lots of photos and rossetes and sashes which is enough for me, it still feels raw, but i still feel as though i have a part of him still with me x

[ria]

Very Sad today, 2yrs today my best friend was taken from me.I miss playing with you in the menage, calling me when i arrived..My life will never quite be the same again x Always in my heart Ria xx

If Tears Could Build A Stairway, And Memories A Lane, I'd Walk Right Up To Heaven And Bring You Home Again."