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Post by kayleigh on Mar 8, 2012 17:13:32 GMT
ARRGGGHH! Just need moan really, I'm so fed up, angry and annoyed with myself. Having major confidence issues with riding and I just want to slap myself and get a grip. Just wrote a whole post on here explaining everything for advice then deleted it cos I realised how stupid it all sounds  |
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Post by fruity on Mar 8, 2012 17:18:36 GMT
I'm sure it didn't.
I'm having a confidence crisis too - just had twins, back in the saddle and can't get to grips with beastie. Happens to us all - I guess one good day will suddnly outweigh a week of bad?
Keep smiling and don't feel silly and I'm sure all will come right
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Post by kayleigh on Mar 8, 2012 19:25:41 GMT
A nervous rider with a 4yo welsh d that's just been brought back into work after being turned away all winter sounds pretty stupid to me somehow over winter I've developed this stupid irrational fear of falling off, I blame it on having kids, once you've got that responsibility you think twice about everything |
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Post by helle on Mar 8, 2012 19:43:18 GMT
it is not stupid, it's called self preservation!!!
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Post by charliewarlie on Mar 8, 2012 19:49:47 GMT
Your not alone! i'm just they same used to ride anything now i can shake at the thought of going new anything different. Maybe do more ground work with him to boost your confidence??
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Post by sageandonion on Mar 8, 2012 20:14:31 GMT
If you are an idiot then join the club, a very very BIG club.
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Post by mellymoo on Mar 8, 2012 20:54:58 GMT
You're not an idiot at all! I was the same last weekend, first time on for a while, and I wimped out completely. Had a word with myself, and had a gallopy hack (some of it in the dark!) tonight. I have been at the stage of being too scared to get on a horse, but you can and will get your riding mojo back. Think of all the fab rides you have had, all the good things - it makes it easier to get on. PM me if you want to rant :-)
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Post by kayleigh on Mar 9, 2012 7:19:04 GMT
Thanks guys makes me feel better to know I'm not the only one who feels that way, I'm very lucky that he is an extremely well behaved youngster, 99% of the time I feel fine but he does have his moments, and when he does have his moments I'm scared of standing firm with him incase he bucks/rears. My worry is that if I dont be firm with him it will ruin his education, and that if I give in all the time and get someone else to ride him he will always take the p out of me. Had a good unload to hubby last had a little cry and now I feel much better. Plan of action is to go buy a body protector today (I know I should ride in one anyway but I absolutely detest them) I'm hoping that extra bit of protection might give me a little more confidence. X
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Post by mandmfan on Mar 9, 2012 8:53:27 GMT
You know with a good body protector you forget you got one on - they mould to your shape. I was wearing one once and it was so comfortable that I forgot about it and only remembered I was still wearing when I got into the car and the base of the protector dug into the small of my back. I used to wear one to hack out a green pony that could be unpredictable and it did help with my confidence. Apart from the really gutsy ones out there I think a lot of us are like you - you know with a youngster you need to nip things in the bud but sometimes putting that into effect is not always easy. I am afraid I chickened out and sold my youngster to a more experienced home but good on you for perservering.
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Post by 09rebel99 on Mar 9, 2012 8:59:34 GMT
Your not alone. And its not silly!! I use to get on anything then came of a friends horse and I'm a bit nervous now!! And I have a vert silly fear of travelling them to. I never usr to give it a second thought but now i make myself ill worrying about it!!!
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Post by kayleigh on Mar 9, 2012 15:34:16 GMT
You know with a good body protector you forget you got one on - they mould to your shape. I was wearing one once and it was so comfortable that I forgot about it and only remembered I was still wearing when I got into the car and the base of the protector dug into the small of my back. I used to wear one to hack out a green pony that could be unpredictable and it did help with my confidence. Apart from the really gutsy ones out there I think a lot of us are like you - you know with a youngster you need to nip things in the bud but sometimes putting that into effect is not always easy. I am afraid I chickened out and sold my youngster to a more experienced home but good on you for perservering. You're so right, I tried on every make of body protector in the tack shop today, ended up going for the aerowear outlyne one, it feels nothing like the stiff bulky ones I remember from my younger years, u can actually move in it and it's shaped to follow the contours of you're back, I love it. I rode my boy again today, kept it short and sweet with 15 mins in the school and he was as good as gold, and I did feel a bit more confident with my new body protector on  |
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Post by clair0611 on Mar 9, 2012 16:24:06 GMT
I know how you feel, I used to work at a dealers yard and would ride anything, even had 3 go up and over onto me! Did make me nervous but got over it. It's been 7 years since I worked their and now I have a little 13.1hh coloured 9 year old stallion to ride. He is dead quiet except for being rather nappy and i'm terrified he is gonna go up on me but every time I get on (1-2 times a week until its light at night) and he naps, i get my legs of steel on and push him forward, even though i'm cr**ping my pants!! He is a little terror and knows if he gets away with it that I won't get back on. Luckily as of yet he hasn't gone up (just mini ones with a spin). I'm still worried every time I get on but once we have got over it he is a little gem!
I have no children so that is not my excuse! I just know what they are capable of, even with him being so small!
I find the best help is to have someone on the ground. They don't have to be doing anything, just standing there! Gives me my confidence knowing if i'm gonna crash and burn they can at least get me an ambulance and put my horse away lol!
Good luck for the future.x
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Post by nia2311 on Mar 9, 2012 17:52:28 GMT
On a slight deviation - does anyone know a reasonably priced body protector for the buxom woman? I am very large of chest, and cannot get my bits into any of the protectors I've tried before! Also I have a minimal budget
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Post by Julie(luke3) on Mar 9, 2012 18:40:37 GMT
On a slight deviation - does anyone know a reasonably priced body protector for the buxom woman? I am very large of chest, and cannot get my bits into any of the protectors I've tried before! Also I have a minimal budget I am the same as you so will wait for the answer  I tried on a sports bra yesterday!!! Let's just say I looked rather deformed  faldingwoodlivery, I also used to get on anything, but being a mum really has changed my confidence x |
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Post by Milliesmum on Mar 9, 2012 18:44:28 GMT
Don't know about body protectors, but decathlon do great sports bra's in all sizes. |
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Post by nia2311 on Mar 9, 2012 18:51:36 GMT
Milliesmum - they dont seem to have much above D cup in a 38 chest...... I need even bigger than that unfortunately..
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Post by catkin on Mar 9, 2012 19:23:19 GMT
I think we all think about self preservation more after having children, and rightly so. Yes, get all the right kit on. Ride in a safe environment and then do it in stages, bit by bit. Taking your time with a youngster won't do it any harm at all. I would get someone else to ride your pony once a week or so though. They might push the boundaries a bit more with the animal and keep it progressing in the right direction AND watching someone else might help you too. Good luck
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Post by nomdeac on Mar 9, 2012 20:27:51 GMT
Get Kelly Marks book Perfect Confidence out of the library. I really helped me and I hadn't ridden for about 15 years and had always been a terrified rider. Good Luck, your not silly or anything else just normal. I wonder how many of us quake inside but just put a brave face on things.
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Post by bumblebee on Mar 10, 2012 17:26:06 GMT
it is not stupid, it's called self preservation!!! THAT!!! |
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Post by chevron on Mar 10, 2012 20:26:30 GMT
Milliesmum - they dont seem to have much above D cup in a 38 chest...... I need even bigger than that unfortunately.. Try figleaves.com There is somewhere else, but I can't for the life of me remember the name, grr! |
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Post by kayleigh on Mar 11, 2012 7:00:30 GMT
Milliesmum - they dont seem to have much above D cup in a 38 chest...... I need even bigger than that unfortunately.. Try figleaves.com There is somewhere else, but I can't for the life of me remember the name, grr! Bravissimo do sports bras x |
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Post by rubydoo on Apr 23, 2012 18:09:47 GMT
your not alone , i lost my confidence with each baby ive had , i have 3 daughters my youngest is 2 1/2 now but i can honestly say althought im more cautious i do have my full confidence back i dont jump tho i just cant bring myself to do it |
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Post by kayleigh on Apr 23, 2012 19:26:02 GMT
Just come on here to update everyone on my little "issues". I'm feeling absolutely over the moon tonight. I've just been to ride my boy. It was the first time I've ever rode him in the school without someone on the floor. For a start I was proud of myself for just getting on. We've been having problems cantering in the school, he just doesn't do canter yet, but tonight I was feeling brave and decided to give it a go. He popped into canter easy peasy, on the right leg and stayed in canter until asked to trot. Ended up cantering twice on both reins I'm so proud of us both, I honestly can't stop smiling. Feel like we've made a real breakthrough  ) im back in the saddle |
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Post by helle on Apr 23, 2012 20:39:54 GMT
yay!!! Well done you xx
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Post by Dipsy on Apr 23, 2012 20:54:48 GMT
Well done :-)
As you have gathered you are not alone, its a horrible feeling losing your confidence but an amazing feeling getting it back
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Post by CarolineNelson on Apr 26, 2012 12:38:17 GMT
Just come on here to update everyone on my little "issues". I'm feeling absolutely over the moon tonight. I've just been to ride my boy. It was the first time I've ever rode him in the school without someone on the floor. For a start I was proud of myself for just getting on. We've been having problems cantering in the school, he just doesn't do canter yet, but tonight I was feeling brave and decided to give it a go. He popped into canter easy peasy, on the right leg and stayed in canter until asked to trot. Ended up cantering twice on both reins I'm so proud of us both, I honestly can't stop smiling. Feel like we've made a real breakthrough ) im back in the saddle Well done. Hopefully, now your confidence is returning, you will be able to help your little girl when she has blips of confidence, too. And, appreciate where she is coming from when things go wrong. Good luck to you both. |
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