the harshness is upsetting

[horsesmakemehappy]

I have only been on here a very short time, and everyone has been lovely not had anyone be harsh to me and have had great advice................but after reading some threads its seems some people can be so very harsh and i dont see why they have to be for example i read the bspa northern thread, im pretty sure the OP was just asking questions and not slating the pony but other posters felt the need to turn it into something it wasnt or thats how it looked? there have been other posts too that i find bit shocking but just seems real awful how harsh people can be on here, its such a good site i dont think people should be treated in that way

[garnet]

The mods have stepped in and locked the thread now, and quite right too, it always seems to be "guests" who start dripping poison, the original poster was asking a civilised question, but it quickly turned in to winner bashing contest, what a shame.

[Erinx]

Whilst the thread does appear to be only asking questions, I think it was started to cause a fuss. You can ask a question about wrong legs without having to name the show and make it clear what class and combination you are refferring to. It's a shame really because somebody else started a thread on these people just a few weeks ago.

At the end of the day it's somebody's child that people are talking so much about and I don't think questioning her win online (again!) is appropriate.

[Erinx]

Just to add, I'm talking about the other two threads and not urs.

[bouncer]

Mar 27, 2012 6:55:34 GMT @Erinx said:

Whilst the thread does appear to be only asking questions, I think it was started to cause a fuss. You can ask a question about wrong legs without having to name the show and make it clear what class and combination you are refferring to. It's a shame really because somebody else started a thread on these people just a few weeks ago.

At the end of the day it's somebody's child that people are talking so much about and I don't think questioning her win online (again!) is appropriate.

Have to say I agree with you entirely Erinx. As adults we are usually more able to handle this type of sniping, children are not as well equipped. I wouldn't be surprised if she has been completely put off showing under coloured societies.
I just want to add that I did report the OP to the mods well before anyone had replied. I appreciate they are busy people with their own lives to lead, but I do think it's a pity that the thread ran on so long.
I would also like to say that I am well aware that this sort of backstabbing goes on in the showing world, but usually in the wagon on the way home. It's sad that some people see fit to start these conversations in a more public domain where their jealousy can cause real upset to innocent parties.

[viking]

Well said Erinx, you too Bouncer.

[iluvponies]

Here Here Erinx, Bouncer, Viking.

If the original posting entitled BSPA Northern Thread was intended to gain information of how are Mixed IN hand Classes judged, how is a flying change, wrong leg judged, and how are stallions graded then why did the original poster go on as a Guest..start thread in a MOANERS Area. It was obviously intended to be aimed at one family, child, & producer but dressed up to look different.

It was as harsh as the thread in the same area titled 'NE CHAPS REGIONAL' just 2 weeks ago!!

The harsh reality is that the vast majority of what is said is utter rubbish & pure fabrication but leads to immense amount of hurt & damage to all those connected, and in particular a 14 year old child who actually rides & owns that pony.

I have also Reported the thread BSPA Northern and I have asked for the thread to be removed...although i appreciate it was locked it has not been removed.

More to the point I feel that the use of a Forum like this can be beneficial to all if used properly but if there are areas where people can Guest Post under Aliases then there is always going to be those that are so bitter and twisted. I feel that all people should have to post under their name end of.

I request again that this post BSPA Northern is removed it is tantamount to bullying & as this is the second time that we have come under fire in such an appalling way, if there is to be a third then we will be taking action.

Nicki Stanier.

[showyourebetterthanthem]

Mar 27, 2012 7:55:21 GMT iluvponies said:

Here Here Erinx, Bouncer, Viking.

If the original posting entitled BSPA Northern Thread was intended to gain information of how are Mixed IN hand Classes judged, how is a flying change, wrong leg judged, and how are stallions graded then why did the original poster go on as a Guest..start thread in a MOANERS Area. It was obviously intended to be aimed at one family, child, & producer but dressed up to look different.

It was as harsh as the thread in the same area titled 'NE CHAPS REGIONAL' just 2 weeks ago!!

The harsh reality is that the vast majority of what is said is utter rubbish & pure fabrication but leads to immense amount of hurt & damage to all those connected, and in particular a 14 year old child who actually rides & owns that pony.

I have also Reported the thread BSPA Northern and I have asked for the thread to be removed...although i appreciate it was locked it has not been removed.

More to the point I feel that the use of a Forum like this can be beneficial to all if used properly but if there are areas where people can Guest Post under Aliases then there is always going to be those that are so bitter and twisted. I feel that all people should have to post under their name end of.

I request again that this post BSPA Northern is removed it is tantamount to bullying & as this is the second time that we have come under fire in such an appalling way, if there is to be a third then we will be taking action.

Nicki Stanier.

It seems to me having read previous posts about this particular pony that Someone out there has a personal vandetta against you. Try not to rise to it, you will only fuel their spite. By you coming on here and defending yourself you are only rising to their bait.
Certain people out there, take pleasure in coming on here incognito.
If I can use an analogy, it is not unlike.. They take the firing pin out of the grenade and hurl it into the room and then wait for the explosion that follows. They hide in the shadows and take pleasure in the hurt, pain and distress it causes others! Rise above it all, or better still 'Calm down and have a cup of tea'

[horsesmakemehappy]

is the pony yours iluvponies? I guess i can see how the person maybe was doing that then if thats the case and it is a shame we should be congratulating not pulling them down, I wasnt at the show but well done to them Im sure they worked very hard and therefore earned there win

[stormyskies]

Happy hacking and pleasure rides are looking more and more appealing as this season progresses! And it's only march!

[bubbles40]

i couldnt agree more stormyskies, the wheels are in motion, xxx

[stormyskies]

I think our 2 boys will take well to beach rides, pmsl

[danni]

i've just been shot down for having a opinion on something,makes me not want to respond in future to people's questions,i refuse to rise to it and will just ignore :-)

[honeypot]

I have found the internet an education in to the bonkersness of people. As most people seem to be nice, sane and sensible when I meet them I have decided the interenet gives people to space to be horrible in the comfort of their own home.
They seem to lose all normal social politeness in their endever to get one up on who ever is annoying them at that moment. I think you just have to think of them as small children in the playground and ignore them and certainly do not get upset by them.

[ladywell]

Honeypot - you have invented a new word - 'bonkersness' I love it!!