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Post by so confused on Apr 25, 2012 9:56:43 GMT
ok here it is ive just found out im pregnant with my partner of 3 years and we are in the process of finding somwhere to live, i want to keep the baby but my partners flipped and told me to get an abortion as he cant deal wih the pressure granted we are only just out of our teens ....
i dont know what to do i really dont .....i need any opinions advice help ......posting as a guest as poeple know me on here and nobody in my family knows about it
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Post by Milliesmum on Apr 25, 2012 10:17:45 GMT
How far along are you? You don't need to make an immediate decision if you are only a couple of weeks in. Take the time to think about all the implications.
Don't be pressured into doing anything you don't want to do. Whatever decision you make is for your whole life, so take your time.
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Post by nia2311 on Apr 25, 2012 19:47:51 GMT
I was in this position aged 16. My son is now 9. Feel free to PM me if you want....
It doesn't have to be the end of your life, career, ambitions etc. I went to Uni, started one postgrad career and have since retrained in another and am finishing a post grad course now.... Things can be done....
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Post by Darceyx on Apr 25, 2012 20:00:03 GMT
I've been there too, Only myself and my partner had been together about 6months and I was 20! We decided to keep the baby and we bought our first house the week before she was born. She's now nearly 6 and we are no married and have a 8month old too!! This has to be ur decision, please don't let anybody pressure you into anything. Maybe if this is how he behaves when an obstacle comes your way then maybe he isn't the person you are ment to be with..........  My children have changed my life soooooo much, yes I've made plenty of sacrifices but they are most deffinately worth it!!  |
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Post by rubydoo on Apr 26, 2012 18:06:09 GMT
i think to be honest most men are totally freaked out by pregnacy. i had a baby at 16 , she is now 13 it was hard, i seperated from her father when she was 3 , it wasnt always easy but i still manged to get quaified in animal management and went on to have 2 more children. i also know people who have had teminations and have been happy with their choice , DONT rush take you time to think about what you want and take into consideration he may not stick around. good luck |
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Post by fanfarefan on Apr 27, 2012 22:39:01 GMT
oh hun , take time to really think out what is best for YOU AND THE BABY , life is a long time to regret a hasty decision , and it is you ,---- and only you who has to live with that decision , get some help and support outside of the family ,and all the best , hug s xxxxxxx
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Post by horsesmakemehappy on May 1, 2012 14:50:50 GMT
i really regretted having an abortion based on my life circumstances at the time i wish i hadnt as i have a supportive family i would of found a way to get through, i did it as my partner said he wasnt ready but trust me think about yourself more then anything, its you who feels the most loss and has to deal with the internal turmoil created by an unnatural thing happening to your body
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Post by Sharan on May 13, 2012 9:49:31 GMT
Whatever you decide think about it long and hard. Which ever way you go you have to be able to live with it for the rest of your life, be it a termination, which can be the right decision sometimes, or a teenager in 13 years time.
Listen to other people's advise then make up your own mind, do not let other people push you into something you do not want to do.
If your man does not stand by your decision then he is not the man for you.
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Post by So confused on Jun 3, 2012 14:58:25 GMT
Thank you all for your advice i still havent told everyone but i am keeping my baby and i couldnt be happier with my decision xx
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Post by nia2311 on Jun 3, 2012 15:24:51 GMT
I am glad you have made a decision you are happy with, and I hope you get the support you need from your friends and family xx
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Post by crazyshetlandlady on Jun 4, 2012 7:03:23 GMT
glad to hear you are keeping it. how does your other half feel now? x
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Post by dimwit on Jun 4, 2012 11:48:27 GMT
Im glad u are happy hope your oh can see this and u both can work through it. If he carnt then hes not the man for u good luck and lots of hugs xx
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Post by sometime on Jun 4, 2012 21:52:36 GMT
Good luck I hope everything goes really well for you you should never regret your decision I too hope you get all the help and support you surely will need. Being a mum is a hard but wonderful experience
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Post by bessieboo on Jun 5, 2012 11:07:33 GMT
Good luck. I was in the same position. Found out I was pregnant 3 days before my 20th birthday and on my birthday my OH announced I had to get rid of 'it' as I couldn't even look after myself. My whole family apart from my mum and granny told me to get rid of 'it' as well as I was ruining my life. I told them all to stuff it and I was keeping it and more to the point I was going to do it on my own. Which I have done. I've never asked any of them for a penny or for anything else. It isn't easy but it is so worth it. My daughter is now 11 years old, has her own pony who she shows at county level. I've got my horses and own my own house. Yes I have to work exceptionally hard and there have been times I've thought I can't do this. But whether he sticks by you or not it is possible and so rewarding.
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