peeved

[justatadpeeved]

Got to have a moan....
Ok I live in a privately rented house due to unforeseen circumstances, struggling to pay my rent, bringing kids up on my own etc...
I am on the council house waiting list.
The house next door to me is a council house.
A lady moves in to council house having come from a 5bed luxury house in a very up market area, going through a divorce, and will be getting a lot of money once house is sold, she works full time.
Why has she got that house, why hasn't the council told her to rent privately ??
Sat here listening to the builders/painters/decorators/carpet fitters doing her new council house up!!!!
I have spoken to this lady who has told me all about her personal circumstances....
AArrrrrrrgghhhhh Really fed up ... thanks for reading x

[HB]

Can you not get some help with your rent? If you are struggling.

No idea about the other, it doesn't seem right. But she needs somewhere to live and the house may take some time to sell, maybe she is struggling too but doesn't want to admit it?

[justatadpeeved]

Yes i do get some help, but my point is how the hek did she get that lovely house when she is clearly not in a desperate need to get a council house, like lots of other people who are either in hostels or like myself on the breadline struggling to make ends meet. She even gets maintenance from the childrens father!
Oh well, I have had my moan, thank you for listening xxx

[foster]

Social housing is open the everyone and not just those that don't work and claim benefits!
I am not saying you don't work but personally think that too people who don't work and have no intention of working get into social housing far to easy and its those that have worked hard and never claim benefits that sit on the list for years and have to private rent.
its goes off how long people have been on the waiting list and individual circumstances , IE, fleeing DV, homeless, ASB etc.
If you where to declare yourself homeless you would then be entitled to high needs and shoot to the top of the list.

[bethankful]

May 23, 2012 21:56:51 GMT @justatadpeeved said:

Yes i do get some help, but my point is how the hek did she get that lovely house when she is clearly not in a desperate need to get a council house, like lots of other people who are either in hostels or like myself on the breadline struggling to make ends meet. She even gets maintenance from the childrens father!
Oh well, I have had my moan, thank you for listening xxx

I think that you should concentrate on other things, more important things, like your kids, than spend your time being bitter about others and their circumstances. What gives you the devine right to think that the world owes you a living more than the lady who's going through her own personal hell next door?

[ilovenatives]

Maybe she hasnt told you her full circumstances and is struggling just as much as you but dosnt want to talk about it . Councils dont hand out houses unless they are needed as there is such demand these days . They will be doing work on the house because houses have to be up to certain standards by law before the council can let them .
Best of luck getting yourself sorted soon

[justatadpeeved]

Thank you for your replies and yes you are probably right, she may not be letting on as much as she has to me.

Thank you livtom I was unaware the social housing was open to everyone, Iv learnt something.
Ilovenatives, she is paying to have it done up herself, not the council
Had my moan yesterday and now I am fine
Thank you to everyone for not judging me or being nasty about my post. x

[dawnie]

I can understand your feeling peeved, it's not easy bringing kids up on your own. I always worked on the ethos that while the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence .. there is usually a whole load of "poo" underneath.

[neuaddparcgal]

My mum works for the local council and I can speak to her about this situation of you would like and what you can do?
However I do know the woman next door to you has to have permission to do up her herself privately...:/

[HB]

That is not true, she can do it up herself however if she leaves the property it must be how she found it. So even if she put a new kitchen in, they will rip it out and replace with a cheapo council kitchen, which i find bizarre.

No one knows what's really going on, wouldn't go judging.

[prettyreckless]

if shes going through a divorce then she was prob the one that had to leave making her homeless which will put her straight to the top of the list for a house.. she may have been in tempory housing waiting you dont know.... people dont always tell you everything..

chin up, and give citizens advice a call see if theres any extra help... do you work? you would be better of working even part time, you will still get help with rent etc also you will get the working family tax credit...

good luck

[justatadpeeved]

Hi, do you know what?
I actually feel ashamed and embarrassed with myself at the moment.
Since this lady has moved in, my children and I have been woken up at approx 6am every mid week morning by her teenage son crying whaling and moaning. Her 3 small dogs bark most of the time.And one keeps coming into my garden which my two dogs do not like. Any way she came round to apologise to me and told me her son has ADHD.
Yesterday we witnessed her two children crying and begging her not to hit them, it was really upsetting to hear.
I honestly think this lady is having a hard time and struggling to cope. And has not told the complete story to me, and why should she, who am i!!
Sounds like i don't have a life,by knowing so much about this lady, but from what we have been hearing i am going to have to ask her when the time is right ' are you ok'?
It was upsetting to hear her teenage children be so distraught.

I would rather be where i am than be going through what she is going through.

[HB]

Good on you, maybe that is just what she needs right now, someone to ask if she is ok. Sometimes that's all it takes, isn't it? The world would be a far nicer place, if more people took the trouble to ask if someone is ok, rather than judging them.

[nia2311]

I think she needs support from someone, if you have kids the same age, that's a great way to start making friends - have a picnic in this lovely weather and offer her some support. Shes clearly struggling, moved to a new area, is all alone.