Post by crazyshetlandlady on Jul 18, 2012 16:05:52 GMT
Didnt know where else to post this.. I don't know if I'm after advice or just need to get it off
My chest?
Anyway, I had this friend, she was my best best friend, I loved her to bits! We did everything together and I missed her when she wasn't around. She was brilliant with my kids and my 3 year old absolutely loved her.
Anyway. In december last year, she and her boyfriend went through a bit of a tough patch, he started getting a bit distant, and spent a lot of time at the pub... Anyway things happened and they fell out, he also said some hurtful things towards me and I disliked him for this!
He went off to his family in Manchester and friend went to her family for Xmas so didn't see her on Xmas or boxing day.. I knew something wasn't right though, then she Just stopped talking to me, completely.
I never chased her, although I hurt so badly and had no idea why she suddenly vanished! I have thought about her probably every day since, but I didn't want to ask her what I had done wrong! Anyway it turns out her boyfriend wasn't going to come back from Manchester if things didn't change. I don't blame him, if you don't like someone then they don't really deserve to be in your life?
Last week when I was out for the day with my mum, We bumped into her mum and had a chat. She mentioned me and her daughter not talking any more and I just said oh I don't know what happened! And that was that... Then this morning I get a message on Facebook from her just saying her mum had told her that she had seen me and she just wanted to apologise for everything that had happened..
We've been messaging each other pretty much all day.. But what do I do now? It honestly killed me loosing such a huge part of my life and I still love her to bits bit don't know wether I should try make friends again or just keep myself well out of it? It makes it hard because shes due to have her first baby this week and after being so close to her going through two miscarriages this baby is extra special!
ugh so so confused!
My chest?
Anyway, I had this friend, she was my best best friend, I loved her to bits! We did everything together and I missed her when she wasn't around. She was brilliant with my kids and my 3 year old absolutely loved her.
Anyway. In december last year, she and her boyfriend went through a bit of a tough patch, he started getting a bit distant, and spent a lot of time at the pub... Anyway things happened and they fell out, he also said some hurtful things towards me and I disliked him for this!
He went off to his family in Manchester and friend went to her family for Xmas so didn't see her on Xmas or boxing day.. I knew something wasn't right though, then she Just stopped talking to me, completely.
I never chased her, although I hurt so badly and had no idea why she suddenly vanished! I have thought about her probably every day since, but I didn't want to ask her what I had done wrong! Anyway it turns out her boyfriend wasn't going to come back from Manchester if things didn't change. I don't blame him, if you don't like someone then they don't really deserve to be in your life?
Last week when I was out for the day with my mum, We bumped into her mum and had a chat. She mentioned me and her daughter not talking any more and I just said oh I don't know what happened! And that was that... Then this morning I get a message on Facebook from her just saying her mum had told her that she had seen me and she just wanted to apologise for everything that had happened..
We've been messaging each other pretty much all day.. But what do I do now? It honestly killed me loosing such a huge part of my life and I still love her to bits bit don't know wether I should try make friends again or just keep myself well out of it? It makes it hard because shes due to have her first baby this week and after being so close to her going through two miscarriages this baby is extra special!
ugh so so confused! 
you know its very difficult to keep everyone happy all the time , and the longer time goes by the easier it is not to pick up where you left off, dont judge her too much ,---- im in a similar position at the moment , and you know it would be just as easy for me to pick up the phone and make contact as it would be for my friend , so we are both at fault ,!!!!! if you feel its right to pick up the friendship again then go for it , but if her partner has a problem with it , then you need to discuss it , and see what you can work out , but the odd text wouldnt go amiss to keep in touch anyway !!