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Post by rightrein92 on Dec 31, 2012 7:48:29 GMT
Can you write him a letter write everything you need to say and give it to him then sit down and discuss how upset he's making you and how things have to change ! If this doesn't work chat to his mum or a relative he's close to they can have a word with him if all else fails councilling ?? Xx
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Post by crazyshetlandlady on Dec 31, 2012 8:39:10 GMT
I could write him a letter, chances are he will not even read it before it gets thrown back in my face or in the bin. I can't have a word with any of his relatives because he isn't close to any of them.. He had a bad upbringing and I know this affects him but surely it should make him want to be an amazing dad and not follow in his 'fathers' footsteps... ? Thanks, I will try the letter. He wouldn't go for councilling because he wont admit that there's a problem, and when he does its normally that 'both of us need to change' although I do nothing wrong... Thanks again x  |
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Post by brindlerainbow on Dec 31, 2012 9:31:26 GMT
Unfortunately if he doesn't think he has a problem then he isn't going to change. Ask yourself why you love someone who is a nasty control freak who treats you and your children like crap, what is the attraction? All he is doing is showing his young children an unacceptable way of speaking to and treating people and im sure you won't want your children to grown up into replica's of their father. If you already know he won't read a letter then it will be a waste of your time writing it and opening up yourself to more unpleasantness. How long will it be before that aggression turns to physical violence, if it hasn't already........
Cut your losses and ditch him, you and your children deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. New year, new start. Can you honestly see yourself spending the rest of your life with an aggressive control freak and being happy ? If the answer is yes then good luck, if the answer is no then you need to be brave and change your life. He won't change no matter how much you want him to. Best of luck and remember only you can control the future for yourself and your children
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Post by viking on Dec 31, 2012 10:04:11 GMT
This man will not change. He has got away with treating you badly and will continue.
You have assessed your situation and found it wanting. Please take control of your life and make those necessary changes, if not for your sake, then for the sake of your children. A bad example is surely not what you want ?
Tomorrow is a new page. Good luck.
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Post by Milliesmum on Dec 31, 2012 10:38:02 GMT
You can't choose who you fall in love with. Love's a funny thng.
You DO have the choice whether to stay with him or not though. Think about your own self esteem, sanity and that of your children, do you really want them growing up with that as a role model?
Walk away, arrange access for the children so that they can't blame you for not seeing him, and tell yourself that you deserve better.
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Post by brindlerainbow on Dec 31, 2012 12:47:09 GMT
Whats happened to the original post ?
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Post by Milliesmum on Dec 31, 2012 18:48:13 GMT
Looks like the original post has been deleted and the account has also been deleted.
OP please let us know you're OK, I'm quite worried about you now?
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