Facebook!!

[09rebel99]

Having a moan again!! Lol!!

Not going to go in to the ins and outs but I have deactivated my account due to nasty people!

Everything I write people presume it's about them. I took people off that were irritating me as I wanted to stay on there to keep in touch with people but then got txs and phone calls off people asking why they had been taken off?

If someone didn't want me on their facebook I wouldn't take offence so why do other people?

I feel I can't say anything even about my own horse without people taking it the wrong way!!

So annoyed and feeling pretty miffed right now :-(

[caspa]

As far as I'm concerned its toxic....

Never heard anything positive or happy, maybe I'm old but I find it sad that people want to share what they've had for tea or when they had a bath..

I have a life, but don't tell everyone every minute of it...
Good for you, deactivating your account.. Well done :-)

[flee]

Feb 1, 2013 16:39:54 GMT 09rebel99 said:

Having a moan again!! Lol!!

Not going to go in to the ins and outs but I have deactivated my account due to nasty people!

Everything I write people presume it's about them. I took people off that were irritating me as I wanted to stay on there to keep in touch with people but then got txs and phone calls off people asking why they had been taken off?

If someone didn't want me on their facebook I wouldn't take offence so why do other people?

I feel I can't say anything even about my own horse without people taking it the wrong way!!

So annoyed and feeling pretty miffed right now :-(

Is this post directed at me ? What you tryin' to say ?

[gillwales]

I have to agree with you, why do people have arguments online?? very bizarre

Only 1 really good thing about facebook is the scrabble games

[09rebel99]

Flee that literally is what it is like!! Never known anything like it! It's made me really miserable and it's a shame as I love keeping up to date with most the people on there!!

[Deleted]

Can you not block everyone instead of deactivate. That way they can't even search for you. I've had to do that over some childish behaviour. Don't need it. I keep in touch with a lot o friends I show with and also most of my friends I went to Uni with as we all came from different places and its best way to stay in touch. And with my other half as he lives in Ireland. Just a shame some people go ahead and spoil it! Chin up. Maybe make a new fb page just for people who you like

[sectiondcrazy]

wondered why i couldnt find you......was trying to message you haha. Have text you but not sure whether iv got the right number xx

[m1hht]

And this is why I only have true friends on it, not every tom willy & harry that are friends of friends or who I've met a few times.

[rightrein92]

I deactivated my Facebook two years ago It was the best thing I ever did

[nici]

Facebook is just a tool - it's how its abused that's the problem.

I use it for keeping in touch with family and friends. I do share things that are going on in our lives, because our family is so widespread and we all love reading what's going on - we'd never keep up if we relied on phone calls, and we're too far away to see each other often.

I also enjoy reading about my horsey friends' successes and achievements with their ponies - whether it's going out for a fabulous hack in the snow, their 2 year old daughter doing hands free up-downs on her mini Shetland, or qualifying their pony for HOYS!

I've had quite a tough few months recently, and the help and support I've had through FB has been fantastic, with friends coming through with practical and emotional support to see me through to the other side.

It can be a great way to communicate and keep in touch, but you have to use it well - and most of all that means keeping your friends list in check. There isn't one person on my list that I have to think twice about who they are (except when they've just got married - that always throws me for a while even though I know their married names!)

[greasedweasel]

There is lots to love about FB, silly photos, keeping in touch with friends abroad, easily keeping in touch with people that have bought our horses and even making new "real" friends (ie met in person) but it can also be terribly depressing can't it.

Recently I decided I would delete loads of folk of my personal page, mostly people that I only vaguely knew through the horses. I was spending too much time getting involved in (or just thinking about) stuff that was nowt to do with me. I put up several status's saying "it isn't personal" and that I could still be contacted through the Chamfron Stud page etc etc.... Everyone took it personally Loads deleted the stud too and then a few sent me friend requests again and I re added them.

Fair to say, not an outstanding success!!! ;D

[sarahp]

I was dragged onto FB kicking and screaming by very techie daughter, really because of the stud rather than as a personal thing, and on my experience so far I'd echo nici, you have to keep on top of it! I've had no nasty stuff so far I'm glad to say, and one of the really lovely things is hearing news of ponies I've bred and sold.

[brindlerainbow]

I love FB and if you use it properly is great for sharing photos and keeping in touch with friends. I've never had any nastiness on it but I only have 174 friends on there whereas some people have hundreds and hundreds. I dont accept friends requests from strangers or from friends of friends. I just have people that I know. Also need to have your settings so that only your friends can see your stuff. Think as well don't write stuff on there about other people, far better to have light hearted staus updates that friends can then join in and you end up having a bit of a giggle rather than stuff that people for whatever reason might think is directed at them even if it's not!!!!! Nowt as queer as folk

[Deleted]

I just keep my page for communicating with friends, but its entirely up to you how you use it or wether you use it, I have never had any trouble.

[pipandwill]

I love FB, but its so often mis-used, just as a place to post in-direct status's about people.

[09rebel99]

Well I went back on and have deleted and blocked alot of the people on there. Hopefully now I can just keep up to date with the people I want to.
I had blocked alot of people a few weeks ago but got loads of grief off certain people because I'd taken them off so couldn't win!!
I'm just not really going to post much on there now.

[horseboxapp]

If all else fails there's G+ where you just circle people you want to be in contact with and only post to them.

[bethanyy]

I love it ;D but yes it is used as a slanging match against keyboard warriors. Some members on here are hypocritical about what they do on Facebook... If you don't want people to know your business then don't post it, simple

[ar6083]

The only reason I keep FB is to keep in contact with people overseas from uni and it has all the society pages I'm a member of so I know when/where meetings are!

[fanfarefan]

im sorry that youve had so much trouble, and hope you get it sorted,,,, ive no intentionof ever going on FB , if i want to speak to someone i will phone them and visa versa

[lils]

I have found Facebook very useful for keeping in touch with people. used to accept friends of friends, but im slowly whittling down my friends list, to people i do actually know and could phone up for a chat rather than someone who i think i may know at the ringside, its taking a while to get through them and delete though!!! Ive found it far nicer having genuine friends on there, blocked the bit*hes, and have found it a far nicer place!