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Post by mrsclosey2012 on Mar 7, 2013 18:17:14 GMT
Hi.. I would love some advice on how to overcome these issues!!
6months ago I was thrown off a horse (whom I trusted 100%) not mine, a friends I was looking after.. I ended up with fractured pelvis. Before the accident I would ride anything and anywhere. My horse has recently been broke (cob) he's 100% in traffic, been on beach, canal, woods he loves being out and never out a foot wrong with the girl who broke him. I also hacked him out in the area he was broke and he was fine!
Anyhow.. He came home last week, I gave him a lunge and took him out on a hack with a friend. As soon as we hit a main rd he bronked!! I managed to get him to a quite rd and he began bronking again.. I have l lost all confidence but don't want to give up on him.. How can I overcome my issues? Is that why my boy is doing this?
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Post by judyh on Mar 7, 2013 18:51:48 GMT
Was something nipping or hurting him?
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Post by mrsclosey2012 on Mar 7, 2013 19:29:24 GMT
Not that I could find. He seemed to do it when I felt anxious.. Ie seeing something and wondering how he will react.
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Post by brookviewequine on Mar 7, 2013 19:39:46 GMT
firstly, glad youve recovered and back in the saddle,
the horse most likely is picking up on your tension, youve already admitted youve lost confidence.
where are you?
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Post by mrsclosey2012 on Mar 7, 2013 19:49:09 GMT
Lancaster. I definitely know its me and not my horse
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Post by judyh on Mar 7, 2013 19:54:59 GMT
When you tense up are you gripping tightly with your lower leg?
Another thought, a girl used to ride one of mine and I worked out that she would put her legs forward and actually catch the mare's elbow.
She only ever bucked when this happened.Once we sorted this she never bucked with the girl again.
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Post by mrsclosey2012 on Mar 7, 2013 20:00:00 GMT
No I'm not. It's more of a gut and mind thing,
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Post by Cockers Cats and Cuddly Ponies on Mar 7, 2013 20:16:07 GMT
Have you thought about having a few lessons? I know some instructors specialise in riders that have lost confidence. Rather than goin to a riding school maybe get someone to come to you and work with both you and your horse. Hope you work it out together xx
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Post by brigitte on Mar 7, 2013 20:16:45 GMT
losing confidence can be an aweful thing. Maybe just try to build on what you have and take things one step at the time. You don't need to prove anything - to anybody - so forget all the 'be brave and get it over with' talk. You cannot cheat on your horse - he will feel something is wrong and sees you as his leader so how do you think he feels ? Right...
I would try to ride as often as possible and really take things very slowly. Don't give him reasons to feel uncomfortable. If you only get to the gate of the place where you are riding, or maybe just to the first corner that's ok as long as you both have a good feeling and you can come back with a smile.
It might sound silly but if I feel a bit tense (first times on a young horse for instance) I sing. You cannot breethe shallow or irregular and sing at the same time. It works for me - or maybe my singing is so bad that the horse behaves hoping I will stop ? Good luck !
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Post by rightrein92 on Mar 7, 2013 20:18:10 GMT
You should get yourself a good instructor that will help you work through it I'm not in your area but I'm sure someone on here can recommend a good instructor to help you build up your confidence
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Post by mrsclosey2012 on Mar 7, 2013 20:29:47 GMT
Bridgette... Thank you, that is what I'm going to do! He is also a young horse and I think that will work brill for us both. Xx Thank you all for your kind advice  |
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Post by chalky284 on Mar 7, 2013 22:49:32 GMT
Having been through this myself, it's hours in the saddle that will 'cure' you. Try having a friend lead you fom the ground until your confidence grows xxx keep at it, the exhilaration you will get from your achievements makes it all so worth it!
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Post by brigitte on Mar 8, 2013 7:17:32 GMT
no problem - I hope it works out for both of you - patience and love can do miracles.
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Post by soxsina on Mar 8, 2013 8:52:16 GMT
Hi, I lost a lot of confidence jumping a few years ago, to the point I realised I was going to have to do something about it or stick to riding on the flat. I saw a sport psychologist for a while and it was fascinating. The was no hocus pocus and it was actually really simple. I asked what should I do if I fall off again jumping, he said you have three options - 1. give up, 2. get back on and jump something smaller or 3. get back on and jump the same height - it was up to me to decide what I wanted. I was initially really disappointed with that response but the more I think about it and use it the more it makes sense.
Its actually quite a good life lesson as well.
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