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Post by heathers on Aug 7, 2009 17:32:16 GMT
your right there cassie30 and when you break their jaw they act like a victim
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Post by brightlite on Aug 7, 2009 17:37:48 GMT
blackladydog , so sorry to hear of your situation . i have been there myself with small children . you think you will never get over it but you can , in time .
your son will be ok , all he needs is mums love and time .
pm me if you ever need to talk x
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Post by cassie30 on Aug 7, 2009 17:42:16 GMT
Yes Heathers that is right, they even blame us for cutting all their clothes up, burning their belongings, cutting the brakes in the car etc etc, it is so annoying!
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Post by heathers on Aug 7, 2009 17:47:55 GMT
cassie30 are we related lol
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Post by cassie30 on Aug 7, 2009 17:57:49 GMT
Possibly! well he said you stupid ladydog you have thrown my computer down the stairs, cut my clothes up and slashed my tyres, i ask who's fault is that, he replies it was me, stupid ladydogs fault, no my love i said, it is your fault for being a total useless cheating back stabbing piece of **** who cant keep his *** in his trousers.
How can that me my fault, besides the computer missed, i meant it to get him but he moved from the bottom of the stairs! i knew i should have waited until he was about to walk through the front door that night after work!
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Post by gtr121 on Aug 7, 2009 20:50:40 GMT
Men can be trained to obey I have proved it. Mine used to think that women shopped and cooked. After a month of Pot Noodles he developed into a wonderful cook and is a dab hand in Tesco's. He has been trained to use the Hoover, a duster, a washing machine and the iron. Has taken a little time to get him fully house trained but it has been well worth it!
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Post by kickon on Aug 7, 2009 22:17:15 GMT
Remember Girls !!! HEll HAS NO FURY :-) and I hope you will be strong enough to hold your own. I thought it was me that always got the bad apples!! I was being very used and abused so I joined muddy matches!! Never would have cheated but it soon bl**dy upset him when he found the boot was on the other foot:-0 and it made me feel better anyway. Im sure that if we can help you we will and at least you have so people to chat to. Good luck and keep your pride. If he calls round be sweet and dose his drink ! there must be something that make him poorly?  I know a clear liquid that will have him on the pot for a day!!! Be carefull not to kill him though :-) |
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Post by lips36 on Aug 7, 2009 22:39:45 GMT
there are some good 1s out there, i found my other half and he wouldnt have it any other way than coming to the shows with me , ide actully stopped going and he encouraged me me to show my youngster and every class we have been in this yr she has won and im pleased has punch , so we gonna take her to county next yr. i work as a nurse and when im at work and can't get to her he does not moan at all, i think im blessed with him it's me who can be the difficult 1 lololol
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Post by sarah00000 on Aug 8, 2009 7:00:48 GMT
I was engaged to a guy once, been together 5 years. I was in a pub with him and a girl walked in and he RAN out.......
The girl came up to me and told me she was his girlfriend and she was pregnant.
I told her I was very pleased for her, congratulations and left.
No sign of Fiance anywhere, so promptly took shoe off, and put it through his beloved car windscreen. He was hiding in a bush (what a man!) but soom came dashing out to see his car!
He spend the next 6 months crying and writing me letters asking me to have him back..... He even threatened suicide and crashed his car in front of me into a ditch.....I left him there!
Sorry - but hell really does have no fury.............
I now have a lovely husband, 2 kids and wouldnt swop my family for anything.
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Post by cassie30 on Aug 8, 2009 7:19:03 GMT
Lovepink, i was once in a pub with the ex, at christmas, a women came in, she was all over him, well it was his wife! i had been with him 8 months and didn't have a clue!
I slapped him hard, walked out, did he follow? Did he heck! The rest is history as they say! I too have also put a car window through, in anger, after i found out one ex was cheating with the girl in the co-op!
By the way, i have been fooled by not one, but 2 married men! One of which i used to spend time at his house, stayed over, barbeques etc, it wasn't until i rode past their house and saw him snogging his wife that i found out, asked who the bloody hell was she, she asked the same and all hell broke loose!
So i am a little more careful and alot more inquisitive these days!
Between married men, cheats, secret bi sexual's and downright bad men, alcoholics and gamblers i have seen it all, and, lost alot of money!
But, i keep my pride and have my own house and ponies, not much of a heart left, but not so much of one to get broken either!
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Post by ponymum on Aug 8, 2009 7:45:05 GMT
Omg  after reading that lot, I think I will pack in the quest for a man! My charming ex of 13yrs was sh-----g a woman whille my dad died of cancer...  Great guy huh? |
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Post by heathers on Aug 8, 2009 7:51:11 GMT
omg what hell us lot have been through,makes us stronger though
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Post by kickon on Aug 8, 2009 8:10:41 GMT
There must be some good men out there but I have never found one and I even keep fooling myself that there is one for me??? I have a partner!!! He dose not give dam about me. I could lay in a ditch for a week or at least till food time!. Just wants somewhere to live and be fed :-(
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Post by sarah00000 on Aug 8, 2009 11:23:18 GMT
blackladydog - my friends ex hubby does this all the time to her. Arranges to have the girls and then says he cant at the drop of the hat.
He also has not paid maintenance in 3 years, as every time the CSA catch him, he leaves the job, just so he doenst have to give a penny!
Some men are just not worth the air they breath.
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Post by welshie2 on Aug 8, 2009 13:22:29 GMT
OMG i thought i was the only one having problems at least i dont have any kids to think of only myself and my beautiful ponies,
should we start a thread for any good men out their that are SINGLE ONLY or just not bother and live a single life ?
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Post by cassie30 on Aug 8, 2009 18:31:35 GMT
nah, you're not alone!
But i dont think a thread is needed, stay on your own!
And i forgot to mention the idiot who broke my arm, jaw and fingers just for being back late from the ponies! Definitely not worth the air he breathed!
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Post by heathers on Aug 8, 2009 18:43:28 GMT
omg cassie30 thats terrible
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Post by cassie30 on Aug 8, 2009 18:59:21 GMT
Yes but im here to tell the story, i still see him too and he hates the fact i can walk passed with my head held high!
Gets to him more than anything and i still have the ponies that he hated so much!
Tough old gal i am!
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Post by cassie30 on Aug 8, 2009 19:01:05 GMT
P.s, because of the bad men i have known, i know what it takes for a man to be a real man!
Made me strong and not take much poo from them! Should not be that way, but as i said, im still here and the one im with now, well, compared to the rest im grateful !
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Post by sarah00000 on Aug 8, 2009 19:18:06 GMT
I had one that battered me black and blue too! He also beat the dog and threatened to kill her if I left him. My 21st birthday, he headbutted me and split my head open. Happy Birthday.
Took me about 3 days of lying in the hallway, after worse ever beating, to get out the door. Even then, he was dragging on one of my dogs legs to try to stop me taking her. Got one dog out, but couldnt get the other one.
He found me out riding, once I did finally got away and beat the horse I was on. He was trying to pull me off his back, while he hung on to the reins and punched my horse in the face. The police were called, by some people who watched from their houses, so he drove off.
He turned up at the yard I kept my horse and you know what, my horse turned and double barrelled him straight accross the yard. That horse had never kicked a sole before and never did again!
Had to get a court order and took about 2 years to get him to stay away. I understand he was later put in prison for seriously hurting a pregnant latter girlfriend.
I was terrified of men for a good while after that and still hate it if any man raises his voice to me. My lovely horse and remaining dog, kept me going through that horrible time.
His family also knew he was beating me and never stopped him. Lovely people..........
As you say, survived and moved on. Never let a man like that destroy you, otherwise they have won.
My hubby is kind and gentle with me and the kids/animals and would NEVER hurt anybody.
Forget the looks and the chat, go for someone kind and considerate, who will make your life better, not worse!
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Post by kickon on Aug 8, 2009 19:24:49 GMT
cassie. OMG is he still beathing??? I could tell you all some bad stories about these things that call themselves MEN!! You never know them till about 6 years in and then the real sh**s appear! Its best to have your own place because they will always try to become lord of the manor. It sound like there is a world of experience on here. Chin up don't get down to his level, dig in and save your home. Have you got family to surpport you?I know how it feels when your world has caved in so take strength from where ever and who ever you can.
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Post by cassie30 on Aug 8, 2009 19:32:53 GMT
Lovepink, my current love interest would never harm a fly, now a days thats all i ask, not for expensive gifts, the worlds fittest man or anything, i dont care if they love my horse or not, as long as they are nice back to me! He is ace.
kickon, i am not with him now he started 6 months in and couldn't get rid for 4 years! He made me feel so low about myself and like no one else would care but him! because i was at and ugly!
Well i am neither and stronger than he thought, i just could nt get him out of here.
The last time he raised a fist to me, i was eating my tea after working til 9pm at the yard, i was exhausted as was HOYs week and had to work from first til last thing, well he hit me, for being late, i stuck a knife through his hand, pure reaction, not premeditated, but it did the trick and he went.
He still tells me he loves me to this day well if that is love i do not want it. Lets put it this way, for all the arguements i have with my family, that "man" would not be walking if they knew what he did!
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Post by kickon on Aug 8, 2009 19:37:24 GMT
What an idiot!! but there are a lot about.
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Post by cassie30 on Aug 8, 2009 19:43:05 GMT
yes there are, but a few good one's too! i would never say they are all like that **** because they are not!
Alot of women are bad too!
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Post by heathers on Aug 8, 2009 20:05:19 GMT
omg some of you have had it bad.
i havent gone through anything like that.
i'm only 4"11 but can take care of myself but i also got 3 older brothers
who look out for their baby sis
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Post by cassie30 on Aug 8, 2009 20:11:57 GMT
I have a bat nowadays Heathers! Only joking! All this bad in life does make you see the good in people though when it is there to see!
Me and him have an understanding, call me once and moan or ask what time i am coming home from the horses, delete my number and forget me!
Leave me to it and we shall get along very nicely!
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Post by cassie30 on Aug 8, 2009 20:31:29 GMT
God thats awful britelight.
Yes i think a few here could write a book, it can be a lonely place to be, so i understand when you said its comforting to read these stories.
Big hugs coming to you from me.
I am a strong person and haven't let it scar me, but many women suffer for a lifetime after some of these things.
I still know how to love, just dont give it out to easily.
Trust can be easily broken but is extremely hard to repair.
If anyone feels he need to chat, or scream or cry, just pm me, im a good listener and nothing will shock me.
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Post by kickon on Aug 12, 2009 13:31:48 GMT
Because they Bl***y do :-(
I have had it up to my back teeth with them. Talk about women having mood swings !!! I let my man go!! Thought the grass was greener and full of promises. It turn out to be covered in sh** and fenced in with lies. So I will keep looking for my soul mate. There has got to be a good one somewhere but I think hell might freeze over before I find Him!!
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I know a clear liquid that will have him on the pot for a day!!! Be carefull not to kill him though :-)
Great guy huh?