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Post by thecremellosociety on Oct 9, 2009 12:36:43 GMT
We tend to keep ourselves to our selfs regards freinds, we rely on noone and noone relies on us, been crapped on to many times, have many aqauintances but dont let many into the very close circle through choice  |
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Post by chelle29 on Oct 9, 2009 19:13:11 GMT
true friends what are they? i thought i had some that if they needed anything i was there whether it be free livery, kids looking after after school, someone to moan to when they're hacked off, that was till recently wen i needed a favour then all of a sudden no one can help.
well i know what to do in future when they come running for help !!!!!!
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Post by ladybird on Oct 10, 2009 9:46:13 GMT
honestly chelle, i think we are just too soft, but no matter how many times we are kicked in the teeth its so hard to say no if your 'that kind of person'. But doesnt it hurt and HOW can people be like that, it beats me.
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Post by chelle29 on Oct 12, 2009 20:41:29 GMT
i keep getting told i'm too soft and crying out for people to take advantage , or lay me on the floor and i'll be the doormat that people walk all over
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Post by hannahlh on Oct 12, 2009 21:02:47 GMT
thats me too - mrs doormat!
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Post by ladybird on Oct 13, 2009 10:38:19 GMT
maybe we should start the doormat club lol!
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Post by moorland on Oct 13, 2009 11:11:03 GMT
No Ladybird join the I am not your door mat club ;D  |
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Post by ladybird on Oct 13, 2009 12:00:51 GMT
LOVE IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I NEED ONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by chelle29 on Oct 13, 2009 18:41:07 GMT
i need one too. hey think i might get my coat embroidered with that on the back ha ha
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Post by Babieca on Oct 13, 2009 18:48:53 GMT
In my teenage years I was trod on by all who cared to, taken for a fool, used for what I could do for whoever wanted me to do it, I did all this because I was brought up to help those who needed help, and I have a conscience and have morals I think a lot of it is how we're brought up - to see the good in everyone/ to help out someone in need etc. Those bl**dy Enid Blyton books have a lot to answer for lol! |
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Post by chelle29 on Oct 13, 2009 18:59:29 GMT
hey i'm related to her on my dads side through marriage
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Post by wobbles on Oct 13, 2009 19:06:39 GMT
Babieca, you made me laugh LOL ;D ;D
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Post by kickon on Nov 21, 2009 18:25:53 GMT
I want to join im not your doormat club!!
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Post by pigsear on Nov 23, 2009 15:11:23 GMT
Me too!
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Post by ladybird on Nov 23, 2009 17:58:36 GMT
perhaps we should start one then lol!!
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Post by piggy on Nov 26, 2009 10:56:35 GMT
Me too! Breaking my leg and being stuck in the house is the biggest eye opener ever!  |
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Post by Milliesmum on Nov 26, 2009 11:00:30 GMT
I think it's only when the 'you know what' hits the fan that you find out who your true friends are, a couple of years ago my hubby was seriously ill, and a few good friends stuck by me, and they are the ones I would drop everything to help now, if they need me.
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Post by ladybird on Nov 26, 2009 15:14:01 GMT
I completely agree, i have 2 friends that i would do anything for, one i have known all my life and the other for about 15 years, i dont trust anyone anymore, very sad though.
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Post by foster on Dec 4, 2009 15:34:59 GMT
i learnt that they were never a true friend, just someone that used me for all i had to offer!!!!!!!! yours sound the same. your better off without them and from reading all these posts i can see you have plenty of other good friends, let them be the ones that matter....thats what i did!  |
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Post by ladybird on Dec 5, 2009 17:32:28 GMT
Thank you livtom, just by reading your post i noticed someone has taken off one of my karmas lol, dont think ive even posted anything lol, must be the old friend up to old tricks again!! (sorry, far too many lols i know!!!) Have given you a karma for your mind message x
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Post by sarah00000 on Dec 6, 2009 17:57:17 GMT
Me too! Breaking my leg and being stuck in the house is the biggest eye opener ever! I can sympathise with that one. I broke my wrist very badly and had 2 ops in 1 week. I had a 6 wk old baby at the time and a 22 month old toddler.  I can tell you that showed who my real friends were and also sadly confirmed that someone else - who should by rights have helped me 100% - is a useless/selfish/cruel person.  |
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Post by dazycutter on Dec 6, 2009 18:41:15 GMT
there will be so many friends who come and go thru your life..... the bad ones will make you stronger and the good one you will love for ever...  |
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Post by sageandonion on Dec 6, 2009 21:13:33 GMT
I don't have 'friends' these days, I have colleagues and associates, the only one I trust is my husband. I wish I had brought my daughter up to be tough, selfish and unkind as I know have to stand back and watch her being hurt and upset by 'friends'.
I shall send you a karma to cheer you a little and I don't want one back either.
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Post by ladybird on Dec 7, 2009 8:46:20 GMT
Yes SO, my youngest son was so used by 2 of the only people he considered to be friends, when theyd bled him dry, they had a good laugh and walked away. Its the worse thing when your children are hurt, far worse than when it happens to us. I think though, it has made my son a stronger and wiser person.
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Post by emma3870 on Dec 7, 2009 10:47:30 GMT
my bestest friend in the world lives 3 doors down from me. we quite often go for weeks without seeing each other although her daughter is best friends with my kids and is up nearly every night.
she had a heart attack at easter and i helped her and her partner while she was in hospital, visited, got shopping and had their daughter with me and picked her up from school etc.
while i was in hospital (12 days!) recently she sorted my kids, my OH and yesterday when my eldest fell off in the middle of the main road she came and rescued 2 kids and 3 horses and took them back to the field, fed them and rugged up. this is a non horse owner! she ended up with both my other daughter and a friend while we were at hospital and fed them etc.
i have only known her for 8 years but she is like a sister to me and i know i can pick the phone up and she would do anything to help as i would back.
i am a sucker for saying yes to help someone out and regulalry put myself out to the detriment of my horses and my own family. sadly i have learnt the hard way that sh!t falls on those that help.
a good friend is a lot more reliable than family as well.
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Post by ladybird on Dec 7, 2009 13:10:09 GMT
thats a lovely story emma, how lovely to have a true friend x
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Post by sarah00000 on Dec 7, 2009 18:20:39 GMT
I have a friend - who I have known for many years - who has turned really nasty with me twice in the last 2 weeks. Both time she has apologised, but I am not buying it. I have had other people tell me they find her extremely dominating and rude, but I have always stuck up for her, but now I have experienced it myself.
Her behaviour is bordering on bullying and I dont really want anything to do with her anymore. Its difficult to explain this to others, without looking like I am being nasty about her.
She is sweetness and light to those she wants to keep in with, so they wouldnt believe me.
Think I will just keep quiet and avoid her as much as possible!
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Post by kayjayem on Dec 7, 2009 20:34:28 GMT
Just be polite and civil and keep your distance. No need to fall out or get into arguments just smile sweetly and walk away!(in a dignified "pink" sort of way!)
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Post by merryment on Dec 7, 2009 22:20:04 GMT
as kim woodburn said i dont make friends because i was sick of being dissapointed
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Post by brindlerainbow on Dec 8, 2009 14:44:35 GMT
merryment I would say exactly the same thing!!!
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