Not Happy WIth My Boyfriend

[Upset]

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 9 months now and despite requests not to and promises he wont he keeps texting his old girlfiend who he lived with. Dont know what to do as he syas nothing is going on but it is making me quite upset. I saw his mobile phone bill the other day and they text each other almost daily at all hours.

What shoud i do if anything or am i being paranoid

[lolly not signed in]

I would accidently drop his phone down the toilet then at least he wont be able to text for a couple of weeks till a new one comes through...

Then, he will just have to loose the new one somewhere like down the cushions etc (make sure its switched off when you shove it down.)

The third take out the battery, soak in washpowder and put back in phone when he is not looking.. again at least two weeks away at repair centre and no texting

and so on, by the time you have done all this if he is still texting her - find yourself a new boyfriend -

Lots of luck hun but its a boy thing, and hes not on his own.

[Clever]

Ask to read the msgs he is sending her. if he wont allow it there i think there would be something goin on. but if there is nothin goin on he wouldnt have a problem with u seein the msgs.

and if he wont show u i would do as the girl said.. break his fone and make sure he looses her number. or change her number in his fone to mayb a mate of ur number so u can read when he txtes.

[Upset]

All the texting happens when i am not at home or gone to bed. Really upset about it especially as he promised not to contact her again. All the texts are deleted off his phone and her number is in as a boys name.

So upset and hurt really dont know what to do

[Upset]

Major argument over this and he will not show me the texts. He keeps his phone with him at all times so cant change the number to mine, love that idea though.
Really struggling to cope with this he claims i am prying into his private life and thats all it is they are friends. I am trying hard to believe him but he will not give me assurances i seem to need and it is tearing me apart to be honest.
Almost on verge of packing my bags but if i do and i have been so wrong it will brak my heart as i love this guy so much

[Upset]

Yes i do live with him and this is breaking my heart. I think he is being really unreasonable as i have given up so much for him. I dont want to a dominering person that's all i want is a truthfull and open and honest relationship i am willing to forgive but through past promises not to contct her broken on more than one occasion i am at my wits end with it. I feel i have the word MUG tattood on my forehead

[Upset]

Thank you overbent. Still am confused as ever but will try to heed your advice before i do anything i will regret. I love him to bits but wish he woould be totally honest with me

[Agony Aunt]

Tell him you are pregnant with twins and see if he leaves you.

[Me had to log out to reply]

I had an ex girlfriend that did the same thing. You are better off without him because he will do your head in. I cant understand why people have to be like that, if he had nothing to hide why keep his phone on him? Why put her number in under a different name?

Go out & get yourself a simcard that has £2 credit on it & send your boyfriend a message making out that you are his ex with a new number. You could even make it a naughty text & see what sort of reply you get! Just use the credit up in a day & then throw the card away.

You may get an answer that you dont want but to be honest you are better off finding out now rather than later like i did.

[jeremy kyle]

it doesnt matter how defensive he gets, if he deletes the messages and is hiding them there is a reason. he is being incredibly disrespectful of your feelings and if he wont let you look at his phone then what else is he hiding?

i know i sound all doom and gloom but if he says he is doing nothing wrong then he really hasnt got any need to hide it. tell him that he has to not contact her again, change his phone number and delete hers.

i like the changing phone number idea, if you can lay your hands on it do it!!!

if it was me i would kick him out and find some1 more worthy of your love, no matter how much it hurts, if he can be like this to you he clearly doesnt feel the same.

[AA]

I'm sorry you are having probs with boyfriend, I agree with Jeremy, nine months may seem a long time to you but when things still haven't improved in another nine months all you'll be able to think about is that this has been going on for 18 months.
if he/you don't trust each other now things are unlikley to get any better.
Although it won't be easy the best thing to do would be either to throw him out or find somewhere else to live. I wonder if this is the problem, is it your house or his?
There are lots of people around who could help you find somewhere else to live if you haven't got anywhere else to go.
You also need to find yourself another boyfriend - if he can have two girlfriends or even a girlfriend and a friend you can do exactly the same.
Good luck, it'll will get better but you need to make some decisions soon!

[Upset]

Trouble is i have my ponies at my place that i share and moving out will be hard. Still not happy but jsut have to grin and bear it for time being and spend my time with my ponies. So tempted to change the number for that girl to mine on his phone though lol.
Trouble is cant laugh too much about it at moment as it is making me depressed and feeling ring down in the dumps.

[scotty]

Hi Girl,
Don't know what your problem is, just turn the tables on him.
Get somebody to start texting you or phoning you when he is about and leave the room or act a bit caggy. Men don't like to think their little women could be capable of messing about.
Anyway don't you think you deserve to be treated better, people can only treat you bad if you let them!

[Upset]

Just an update. We have h really good few months and texts have stopped was so so so happy. UNTIL THE WEEKEND.
He has a secret my space account where he chats whith the B***H. (Sorry). At my wits end dont know if i can ever forgive him now, feel abused and stupid to have trusted him, but it seemed so much better. Dont think i have an option but to leave as i cant live my life with a this hanging over me. Soo sooo upset

[sorry]

i'm sorry to say but your prob better off without him now if you have lost the trust, trust is something which is very hard to gain and once someone has done something against you for you to lose the trust it's very hard to win it back. you have problerley find once you let go you will feel alot better off physically and mentally. no one deserves to be treated the way in which you are, and after all theres plenty more fish in the sea!

[shsg]

hi if u plan on leave him u should prob put both nof there phone numbers on a random chat room just for a bit of revenge theres nothing worse than a lot of random people calling u for no apparent reason. a would go for some sort of free dating site. x

[FF]

Any news?

[sonny]

yes what happened i hope all worked out well

[reb]

you will always find some way of sorting your ponies and stuff out. Get rid of him before you waste more time. The more time you stay with him, the more you will regret it. If he wants you that much he would have listened to your requests to be open.

[silverlady]

Dump him....... theres plenty more fish in the sea (I think) but your worth better treatment than that. Go for it girl.