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Post by julie on Mar 15, 2007 11:48:13 GMT
Good God I am so fed up with everything at the moment - what is it that makes me do nice things for people only to have every other .......r stick it to me? What with cleaners ruining bathroom floors, idiots loaning free ponies who then send them back, so called friends messing aaround and psycing out my daughter (spelt wrong I know but I dont care) to prats in dressage - I have had someone offering to gazzump on a puppy I have sold but who is here till end of month and it would never occur to me to do such a thing but there are loads of people out therre who would step over you to do it, make a load more dosh.....oh I am so mad I cant think straight! Is it just me or is anyone elese having a crappy 2007?  ? |
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Post by lolly on Mar 15, 2007 12:50:31 GMT
I am not just fed up but just sick of moaning, I always seem to be moaning lately. What with yucci work with a alcholoc boss, nightmare teens, too many nags, and lack of money (due to too many nags and teens). Sometimes I think I should give myself a good kick because a friend is really ill with cancer, another has a terminally ill baby, and I am constantly moaning about nothings in comparison.
Decided I must sell One Nag, only advertised him on here, no where else and took him off after a few days, as couldnt stand the thought of selling him,,,, must though at some point as need the money.
I cant believe somebody would try to take someone elses puppy, I really do believe in what comes around goes around so for keeping the puppy for the original people something nice will happen. I have read the following before but someone sent it me again today and I thought I would share it
His name was Fleming, and he was a poor Scottish farmer. One day, while trying to make a living for his family, he heard a cry for help coming from a nearby bog. He dropped his tools and ran to the bog.
There, mired to his waist in black muck, was a terrified boy, screaming and struggling to free himself. Farmer Fleming saved the lad from what could have been a slow and terrifying death.
The next day, a fancy carriage pulled up to the Scotsman's sparse
surroundings An elegantly dressed nobleman stepped out and introduced himself as the father of the boy Farmer Fleming had saved.
"I want to repay you," said the nobleman. "You saved my son's life."
"No, I can't accept payment for what I did," the Scottish farmer replied waving off the offer. At that moment, the farmer's own son came to the door of the family hovel.
"Is that your son?" the nobleman asked.
"Yes," the farmer replied proudly.
"I'll make you a deal. Let me provide him with the level of education my
own son will enjoy. If the lad is anything like his father, he'll no doubt grow to be a man we both will be proud of." And that he did.
Farmer Fleming's son attended the very best schools and in time,
graduated from St. Mary's Hospital Medical School in London, and went on to become known throughout the world as the noted Sir Alexander Fleming, the discoverer of Penicillin.
Years afterward, the same nobleman's son who was saved from the bog was stricken with pneumonia.
What saved his life this time? Penicillin.
The name of the nobleman? Lord Randolph Churchill. His son's name?
Sir Winston Churchill.
Hope you soon feel happier Jules
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Post by julie on Mar 15, 2007 14:21:24 GMT
Well, now I AM crying...
You are right about other people having life far worse, my daughter's godmother has had her breast cancer return, very agressively, and she is a singleton with no children, no partner...how frighteningly lonely that must be. Another couple are going through a horrific court case so I suppose moaning about a lot of stuff I am going through is self indulgent and made worse by the fact a lot of it is my own fault...oh dear.
But seriously, reading the story above is the basis of my rage I think. I do try to not cheat, take advantage etc through my day to day life - I like to give people my parking tickets (I mean the paid ones allowing parking!) if there's time on them, or at Christmas handling over a trollye with the £1 coin still in as a way of pushing "good vibes" forward but sometimes the ***T that comes my way makes me want to drive over a cliff! I pay Vat, taxes etc, work hard but gosh, when you read what the wasters are living on with plasma tv's etc....oh its just fume making.
My top lip has been frozen on and off all day which only happens when my stress levels are sky high and its most disconcerting. Every year I vow to be a better person at NewYears and look what happens. Doesnt help that the marriage is going through a bad patch too!!
Oh well, I have a wonderful daughter and my mother is great and a couple of friends left....I'm off now to go buy gin! Thanks Lolly and all the best to you too.
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Post by skint on Mar 15, 2007 21:58:14 GMT
Julie
I think that we are all going thro a bad patch at the momment, its the time of year and I think that you get sensitive to every little thing.
When things really are getting me down and I just want to walk away, I think of my friend who died two years ago this week she was only 40 and left a little girl aged then 9 and I just think I bet she would have loved to be here and dealing with the stress rather than where she is now.
It helps to have good friends too. Lolly is a gem of a friend she is always there when you need a shoulder to cry on and I hope I am half the friend to her too. We take the pee out of each other but good friend are hard to find.
I am on my own with my daughter so sometimes thing get to me especially money its always a battle each and every month to keep the head above water but we manage somehow.
I think that you have to accept that some people are users of the first class kind. I know someone who has never worked a day in her life, single mum council house rent paid council tax etc. she has about 7 ponies and has the bloody cheek to ring to see if she can borrow my car and trailer and would I insure it for her mother to drive. When I was gullable a couple of years ago she borrowed my car and trailer and said she was picking a pony up that she had bought fairly nearby when she finally got the lot back to me they had done over 300 miles and left it totally out of petrol. I am getting better at saying no now.
Just let it all wash over you get the cd player on and dance to some daft boyband songs you will feel better I promise.
Hope you feel better soon
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Post by julie on Mar 16, 2007 0:20:54 GMT
its odd isnt it that messages from strangers mean so much..
thank you for the good wishes
I dont eant to get to HOYS ( Iwish) but if the old whp can go another season, I'd happily give a bit of soul...
I am at a huge crossroads in my life and dont know which way to go so maybe old whp and I........
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Post by dun4u on Mar 21, 2007 21:34:59 GMT
Dear Julie,
I read your thread and thought this may cheer you up. I know just how you must be feeling - been there, got the T-shirt, but now life is great again and I look back and thank God that I had the strength to get through it. Don't even THINK of giving up those little generosities - even if s**t does get thrown back at you. YOU know that you have plenty of honesty and self-respect and that goes a long way, these days. Life is what you make it so don't let anyone else get you down. It's that time of the year, anyway, but the shows will be here soon!
Best of Luck.
Read on .......
* * * * * * * * * * * *
Dear Tech Support,
Last year I upgraded from Boyfriend 5.0 to Husband 1.0 and noticed a
distinct slow down in overall system performance particularly in the
flower and jewellery applications, which operated flawlessly under
Boyfriend 5.0.
In addition, Husband 1.0 uninstalled many other valuable programs, such
as Romance 9.5 and Personal Attention 6.5, and then installed
undesirable programs such as Super 12 Version 5.0, Tri Nations 3.0,
Limited Overs 7.2, and especially Golf Clubs 4.1.
Conversation 8.0 no longer runs, and Housecleaning 2.6 simply crashes
the system. I've tried running Nagging 5.3 to fix these problems, but to
no avail.
What can I do?
Signed,
Desperate
Dear Desperate,
First keep in mind, Boyfriend 5.0 is an Entertainment Package, while
Husband 1.0 is an Operating System.
Please enter the command: "http: I Thought You Loved Me.htm" and try to
download Tears 6.2 and don't forget to install the Guilt 3.0 update.
If that application works as designed, Husband 1.0 should then
automatically run the applications Jewellery 2.0 and Flowers 3.5. But
remember, over use of the above application can cause Husband 1.0 to
default to Grumpy Silence 2.5, Happy Hour 7.0, or Beer 6.1.
Beer 6.1 is a very bad program that will download the Snoring Loudly
Beta.
Whatever you do, DO NOT install Mother in law 1.0 (it runs a virus in
the background, that will eventually seize control of all your system
resources.
Also, do not attempt to reinstall the Boyfriend 5.0 program. These are
unsupported applications and will crash Husband 1.0.
In summary, Husband 1.0 is a great program, but it does have limited
memory and cannot learn new applications quickly. You might consider
buying additional software to improve memory and performance. We
recommend Hot Food 3.0 and Lingerie 7.7.
Good Luck,
Tech Support
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Post by johnwayne on Apr 22, 2007 20:50:34 GMT
:DHi Julie, just read this thread again, and am hoping that your year has improved. Which way did you go at the crossroads? Good luck to you and your ponies in the season ahead.  |
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Post by johnwayne on Apr 22, 2007 20:52:44 GMT
Agh! Meant to be 'your' ponies, not 'our'!
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Post by julie on Apr 27, 2007 13:42:59 GMT
Nope, things worse than ever. Only we could finally decide to sell house now when market is turning and interest rates are rising - this happened the last time we decided to sell! Now am booked in to see therapist for depression, my brother's health in causing us concern (he has had two very serious bouts of lymph cancer treatment in past 18 months), my daughter's godmother has had her cancer return, business is so bad we might as well give up but finding a job aged 48 and being fairly useless is kinda hard..and dont get me started about banks and mothers in law... If it wasnt so awful, you'd have to laugh. The brightest part of my life is my daughter - I wish to heaven I could buy her a really decent pony as she works so hard with them but is stuck with an ancient whp, somebody else's dartmoor (who has to be sold as he's 11.3'ish and she has sprouted upeards over winter) and a not quite so ancient dressage pony who again belongs to someone else who is kindly letting her ride it to bring her riding along. Its worrying how much I need her and the ponies competing in order to get away from the house and all the mess I'm in. Oh well, at least there is HG. And one wonderful thing did happen this week - the elderly pony has come right back into full health so we took her to a local EC to do some little showjumping to see how she would react - she lit up when she went in the lorry, her eyes were so bright with excitement when she went into the collecting ring to work in, it truely made me well up I was so pleased for her. I have never loved a pony as much as I love Kitty. I'm living day to day and just hope I can keep paying the entry fees otherwise.... so thanks for asking! And in the meantime the people I was originally moaning about are still upsetting me, a dear friend emigrated to Oz so can only communicate by email, and worst of all the GIN AND WINE STOCKS ARE RUNNING LOW!! I just hope whatever I did in a past life to deserve all of this will be repaid soon and my luck can change. Sorry to drone on, and thanks for your good wishes.  |
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Post by skint on Apr 27, 2007 14:34:15 GMT
Hi Julie Keep you chin up and dont let them grind you down. Why dont you advertsie on horse gossip for something on loan. My friend did and got offered loads of lovely ponies. I am live very much hand to mouth and have just gone to small claims court for reclaiming my bank charges believe it or not with the interest added it comes to more that six thousand pounds. Have a look into it a good website for this is www.reclaimunfaircharges.com |
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Post by lolly on Apr 30, 2007 10:57:26 GMT
Hi Julie
Hope you are feeling better and cheerier this morning, I advertised on Horsequest a couple of years ago for a county standard pony for my daughter to compete on as hers was not ready. We were contacted by some lovely people and offered some amazing ponies, it cost us 10.00 to advertise. I think that there is a lot of small outgrown ponies out there that people want to see doing a job but dont want to part with and still want to be part of their lives. They just want their outgrown pony to go on to do well and be loved.
Try a advert it cant do any harm, especially as you are offering a 5 star home.
On the job front, good luck, and 48 IS NOT OLD
lolly x
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Post by julie on May 2, 2007 13:14:00 GMT
Skint, funny you should post re bank charges - we are probably owed a fortune BUT OH very worried about pursuing them while we are overdrawn! Did you know a test case happened yesterday with a young barrister/solicitor taking NatWest to court for illegal charges? Havent heard outcome though. Last month I was charged £90 for one unpaid direct debit! We have actually always had a brilliant relationship with our bank until xmas last year - I think they are flagging up potential "troublemakers" as I have heard from various friends a sudden change has come over their banking relationships too. It just sucks and dont get me started on these idiotic Home Buyers Packs!
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Post by woof on May 2, 2007 19:38:06 GMT
Well reading this seems like this year has started badly for quite a few people. Mine started with crashing the trailer!!! Very helpful 10yr old put up the side ramp and told me he had not fastened it but in the flurry of putting ponies to bed and that ever nagging voice of OH in your head, "you've been hours", Where's dinner, etc, I drove off and hit a solid building, knackered ramp, smashed building. Missed all our spring shows and quals, no bad thing as bank balance empty but soooo depressing, finally got ramp fixed thanks the OH, the kind version not the nagging one as described above, only fixed it cos I was such a miserable cow!!! So now we're all ready to go to our first show and the B****y ponies ill, he is the kids pride and joy and best friend, shows are not important but worried about pony and the Vet's bill. Oh well at least I'm not the only one!! Sorry to rant but I felt left out after reading your posts.
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Post by skint on May 3, 2007 10:17:30 GMT
I have also got paid out from my other current account too, it was only £500 but they paid me within 2 weeks and I have an overdraft with them as well and it didnt affect it.
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Post by julie on May 3, 2007 13:08:07 GMT
Did they not become difficult after you instigated court proceedings? I am amazed that with all the backlash they are still charging £30 at time - you'd think some bright spark would have realised what a potential mess they are all in and quietly changed the charges accordingly...
I had a car accident by my village post office on my way to Hartpury to help steward. Bascially I was parked in the layby by the shop in my old Frontera (built like a tank) checked in front, over shoulder, side mirror (spied the new Discovery hoovering by my right bumper no problem) HOWEVER I backed up all of about 2ft when BANG - some guy had double parked on main road, I couldnt see him, I tried to apologise and I have never, ever had a fellow human being(?) verbally abuse me so badly I thought he was truly going to hit me. The worse 15 mins of my life, I burst into tears, was shaking so badly I had to ask the shop owners to write my tel no down as I couldnt write - the whole time he didnt stop callingme a stupid bit*h, plus - and most distressing of all funnily enough - he stood there taking pictures of me crying. I was led away to calm down, he left and I then drove on to Hartpury, not wanting to let them down. I drove through at least 5 speed cameras on the way but as I cried the whole time I KNOW I must have gone too fast so every time the post comes I am dreading the penalty notices....I am fairly new to stewarding as well so God knows what the judge made of me - not to mention the competitors and I had a headache to end all others all afternoon.
But having written this, and suffering from depression, I know I've got to get after myself and change things....and as for poor Overbent, well maybe I should be trying a lot harder.
I now have to clean the house for a viewing at 7pm by someone who hasnt even got their house on the market!!
By the way though, the awful man has been banned by the owner of the shop - and he (the owner) is a policeman!
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Post by skint on May 3, 2007 14:55:33 GMT
Hi Julie No they never have become difficult but the silly sods keep putting charges on the account and I just sent them a letter each month and claim them back.
Why is it you always have an accident whern you are feeling below par, i did the same and reversed out of my drive really slowly and a silly old git ran into me while he was eating his fish and chips and then said it was my fault.
I suffered with depression for months and finally went to the doctors who gave me some happy pills and as she said it is an illness a lack of a chemical in the brain and you cannot just pull yourself out of it. I feel so much better on them far more even tempered.
As you said there is always someone worse off but with depression you just feel like the sun will never shine again - get to the docs and I can assure you it will. I was so bad a was even crying watching Crufts on TV my daughter thought I had gone mad.
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