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Post by skint on May 12, 2008 10:23:01 GMT
My daughter who is 14 is really horrible sometimes, dead mouthy, moody and secretive. Does it get any easier come on folks cheer me up.
We have had a good weekend really no rows, but thats only cos she went to Newark county with the cousin so we didnt see much of each other.
If I make a comment when she is schooling she bites my head off and is really abusive. If I ask her about school she just walks away and boyfriends a total no no
Has anyone else gone through this with their kids. give me some advise
PLEASE !!!!!!!!!!!
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Post by piper on May 12, 2008 10:44:17 GMT
Sounds very normal skint. something we have to endure until they come out the other end.Not much comfort I know.Sorry.
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Post by shelleyj on May 12, 2008 11:00:57 GMT
normal! just make the most of the good bits
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Post by spot on May 12, 2008 12:50:02 GMT
It`s definitley normal teen behaviour!My son would grunt and mumble at me if i ask him anything!and daughter would look at me as if i was something she had trod in on the bottom of her shoe, but they are now both considerate, fun and generally turning into pleasant adults!  |
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Post by seahorse on May 12, 2008 21:27:25 GMT
oh help your ment to do this at 14 and stop, have just come off the phone from my mum, and I was a teenager again, fine but am in my thirties
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Post by Milliesmum on May 12, 2008 21:42:58 GMT
Ever so occasionally, my lovely mum will TREAT me like a teenager, which tends to bring out the worst in me and make me BEHAVE like one!
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Post by stephjw1 on May 12, 2008 22:15:49 GMT
Normal !!!!!!!!
Dont want tp worry you but wait till they are old enough to drive and they disappear up the road for the first time in their cars Its terrifying so enjoy the tantrums
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Post by piper on May 13, 2008 8:02:51 GMT
 My Mum never ever stopped treating me like a teenager,Died 3 years ago and I had to grow up. Shame. I am in my 50s btw.
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Post by lancs on May 13, 2008 12:41:19 GMT
My daughter is 16 and there is light at the end of the tunnel, we can now have a chat even laugh at the same things and, wait for it, she will take my advise on her riding !!! Now, my son, 18, he now drives so never see him. funny but I actually miss him !
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Post by skint on May 16, 2008 8:47:28 GMT
So I just need to hold tight for the next few years and then it should get better. sometimes I cringe on how she speaks to me and when its the time of the month I need a flak jacket. It does fill me with hope that you all say that they do grow up into nice normal young people
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Post by Milliesmum on May 16, 2008 8:51:06 GMT
Skint I think you have to decide just how much you are prepared to put up with and where your particular 'line' is drawn. Sit down, discuss, and lay down a few simple rules, and if she sticks to them, you'll let the rest of it go. It's your house and you do deserve a bit of respect.
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Post by jemsyd on Sept 30, 2008 21:06:14 GMT
Well i am a teenager, My dad says there should be a place where you can send people to whilst in there teens and when there 20 they can come out and be normal
But what do you think?
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Post by klbeebs on Sept 30, 2008 21:11:08 GMT
Sounds like a great idea to me. Now there's a business opportunity for someone to help us get through the credit crunch
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Post by stephjw1 on Sept 30, 2008 22:23:57 GMT
Awww you can come and live with me we like teenagers, just couldnt eat a whole one, seriously though I hated being a teenager, and my mum sys I was no bother.
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Post by wobbles on Oct 1, 2008 12:28:04 GMT
Hi Skint I have been through this 4 times and I have survived.....just!!!  it will seem like it is a never ending line of rows and bothers, but your best defence is to ignore them, they can't stand to be ignored, I have tried and tested this theory and it does work, you just have to be brave hahahahhahahaa, but they do appear one day and they are "NORMAL ", and then all the anguish disappears, and you are left wondering if you have lost your mind and was all this going on hehehhee, good luck  |
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Post by pinkgirly on Oct 4, 2008 18:31:56 GMT
My daughter who is 14 is really horrible sometimes, dead mouthy, moody and secretive. Does it get any easier come on folks cheer me up. We have had a good weekend really no rows, but thats only cos she went to Newark county with the cousin so we didnt see much of each other. If I make a comment when she is schooling she bites my head off and is really abusive. If I ask her about school she just walks away and boyfriends a total no no Has anyone else gone through this with their kids. give me some advise PLEASE !!!!!!!!!!! Hi Skint, I too was wondering the same as my son is now 21 & STILL acting like Kevin  Last night i shouted his name ( purely to ask what he wanted for tea!) & got a very angry `WHAT`  think it is just me he is forever angry with The dirty looks are a killer too as is the loud music/TV  the thing with boys as well is the smell   it really isnt nice  I think girls do grow up quicker & usually at about 17/18 they seem to be ok, so not much longer for you LOL |
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Post by 4emms on Oct 27, 2008 20:52:39 GMT
Well, I'm very scared now - I sometimes get the 'WHAAAT!!!' with attitude from mine,especially after a day at school - and she isn't even 11 yet. Argggghhh
I think a lot of it is an overflow from school, they seem to forget that there are different rules and they don't have to be cool for their mates any more.
Then again, I'm still a bit difficult with my mum, but she refuses to accept that I am old enough to make my own decisions and sulks when she can't influence me. Now that's childish!
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Post by skint on Oct 27, 2008 22:44:13 GMT
Another question for you all. My daughter is 15 in a couple of week - not much improvement from the first time I posted this thread in May. She has now found herself a boyfriend = well she says he's not her boyfriend but is at our house all the time !!!!!!!!!
What do you do when they want to spend time in her room. I dont really want them sat in the lounge with me, but I am scared stiff what they may get up to in her room. The other way of looking at it is at least they are not roaming the street.
Help and advise please I really really need it.
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Post by shelleyj on Oct 27, 2008 22:57:51 GMT
get a baby monitor.....
sorry for being flippant - say no way, not in her room - it's your house and you need to make the rules
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Post by halfpass on Oct 28, 2008 0:12:43 GMT
sorry to disagree but if they are going to get up to things then they will no matter what you say or do, if it was me it would be yes you can go to your room but the door stays open, I had a Curfew of 9pm my dad would say if you are out after that time you were up to no good, so I would be up to no good at 8.30 and be home by 9pm. Thats kids for you. |
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Post by skint on Oct 28, 2008 9:33:30 GMT
Thanks Halfpass, I was no angel myself and I havent turned out too bad. As you say they will get up to things whatever I do. I am turning into what my mum was like with me. TGhats age for you I suppose and having kids.
I think I will do as you say and give her some time rules and just keep my fingers crossed. Most of the time there are 5 or 6 of them anyway, Its just when just the two them are left. I really do think girls grow up so early
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Post by halfpass on Oct 28, 2008 14:56:45 GMT
Mum and dad where always lurking around when girls came round but never the boys, if only they knew  |
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Post by wobbles on Oct 29, 2008 8:07:56 GMT
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Post by jemsyd on Feb 21, 2009 11:56:53 GMT
Mum and dad where always lurking around when girls came round but never the boys, if only they knew [/u] |
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Post by josie1234 on Sept 2, 2009 17:56:31 GMT
I can't bad mouth my mum too often as I know she would take the pony off of me, she has pushed me off of my B in a dressage lesson before! Good job I can run faster than her!!!!
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Post by JessicaT on Oct 11, 2009 18:22:58 GMT
Well im on round two! First one was great till she was 14 then overnightturned into the kid fom hell. Get on great now (she left home last year) wasnt very happy but probably the best thing she did, we are very similar personalitys. Youngest now 13 and has seen what happens when you dont tow the line. She gives a bit of lip and stomps around abit but she really is a breeze after no 1!! Walk away when she strats no one can argue with themselves, i kept the door open re boyfriends and kept going upstairs asking pointless things like do you want/need anything/!!
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Post by deejay on Oct 11, 2009 19:45:00 GMT
ha ha that made me laugh halfpass We have got a budding Kevin and she is only 3!! |
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Post by hopeteam on Oct 22, 2009 12:05:51 GMT
I am 14, and now I get on with my mum pretty well, we didnt use to get on that well.
One clue is do not ask about school wehn she comes home because generally at the end of the day you are fed up and want to hear no more about it, and sometimes I cant really explain it but you just arent in the mood to talk to anyone.
I snap at my mum when schooling too, I dont know why I do it, mostly because I am nervous and dont like people watching, so you could go and do something else while she rides, and that might make her feel less grumpy!
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Post by jazzymac on Oct 22, 2009 12:15:39 GMT
Teenagers are natures way of letting your offspring go. By the time they are ready to leave at 18 you are more than ready to let them go. If they were really nice, loving human beings, we would want to keep them forever ;D
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Post by lancs on Oct 31, 2009 18:09:21 GMT
Hopeteam, keep posting it's great to have inside information !!!
I realised finally that she also snapped even more when she was riding when she was nervous, so I learnt to back off and trust her to do her best, which she usually did to be honest.
re the boyfriend thing I allowed them upstairs but the door was always open and I would walk in unannounced at regular intervals so they never knew when I would just appear, I do knock now though but it is same boyfriend now for 3yrs so he is now part of the family.
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My Mum never ever stopped treating me like a teenager,Died 3 years ago and I had to grow up. Shame. I am in my 50s btw.
it will seem like it is a never ending line of rows and bothers, but your best defence is to ignore them, they can't stand to be ignored, I have tried and tested this theory and it does work, you just have to be brave hahahahhahahaa, but they do appear one day and they are "NORMAL ", and then all the anguish disappears, and you are left wondering if you have lost your mind and was all this going on hehehhee, good luck 
think it is just me he is forever angry with 
it really isnt nice 
