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Post by cathor45 on Oct 11, 2010 21:21:30 GMT
I have just read this whole post in total disbelief. Well not total - bloody human nature being what it is, nothing surprises me any more! I once had an aunt who sold out the whole family to the press when we suffered our 3rd suicide (yes three! we are actually a very normal family, honest). She didn't expect me at the age of 19 to knock her flying down my garden path when she tried to justify her actions by saying the public had a right to know!!
NO, the public have no right to know anything that doesn't affect them without the prior consent of those most affected. When will the bloody journo's get this into their heads?
I am so sorry that you, your husband and little sam are having to deal with this. You sound at the end of your tether hun, but you know the old saying "you can pick your friends but not your family"?well its b***s**t, you can pick who you flippin well want and you pick the people who keep picking you up from the ground when you fall, dusting you off and supporting your next precarious steps. Not the ones who kick sand in your face whilst you are down.
Take a deep breath, hug your boys and hold your head up high. do not give it another thought - you'll only torture yourself more. Let the hurt they have caused you go, you have dealt with far worse than this over the past few months and you will heal with or without their help. You will NEVER EVER be alone (or orphaned) you silly thing, us lot here care far too much to let that happen.
Sending you a massive cyber hug for you to wrap around the three of you. Hold on tight xxxxxxxxxxxx
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Post by Guestless on Oct 11, 2010 22:54:14 GMT
I can't think of anything to say LP  I started reading this thread with the thought that your brother probably thought he was helping, but I can't understand why it took so much pleading for him to delete the articles. I know you are feeling fragile and betrayed, but don't be too quick to judge your parents - they are only human and your dad was probably playing devil's advocate...he may have blown your brother to pieces in private.....I hope so anyway. I hope the fact you get so many messages of support on here will go a short way to helping you to heal. |
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Post by cleoruby on Oct 11, 2010 23:03:52 GMT
Lovepink, I can't believe why when you need your family so much you could be so let down by them. Your brother seems to be putting his 'job' before his family and your wishes. You have done nothing wrong by leaving Jamie to play on his own for 15 minutes and you shouldn't feel like you have, you wouldn't be a normal mother if you didn't let them play or have there own space. Your brother may have now actually realise the hurt he has caused now he has taken down the pictures off his blog, he needs to put himself in your shoes even for a minute!
Everybody has different ways of dealing with grief and maybe your brothers way of dealing with it is trying to make a difference with the treatment people receive from the press but in doing so he is treating you and your family in the exact same way that he is campaigning against!
You have still got a family, they have hurt you beyond belief ...but you still have sam and your hubby and they are the ones which truely matter. If I was in your position now I would feel pure hatred towards your brother right now but you can rise above this, you have been to hell this year and need positive people around you not ones that are selfishly putting themselves first. Keep strong xx
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Post by Julie(luke3) on Oct 12, 2010 6:46:13 GMT
LP I have pm'd you  |
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Post by thecremellosociety on Oct 12, 2010 7:31:26 GMT
Massive Hugs Sweety xxxx dont know what else to say, other than you have done nothing wrong it could have happened to any of us with kids, it was a freak accident, nothing else ....
As for family well I do have had my fair share of parental things, and no where near the extreme you have, i would sue the arse off him, im sure there is somthing he has done wrong, sorry im not up on law and legalities, but the truth will shine through ... and karma will prevail xxxx
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Post by sageandonion on Oct 12, 2010 8:38:01 GMT
You can't pick you family but you can pick your friends and I don't know of anyone why has such a gigantic pool to pick from. Please pick me as a small one.
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Post by ellieraga on Oct 12, 2010 8:44:17 GMT
I am totally lost for words, as if you havent been through enough.
Thinking of you, Richard and Sam
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Post by Ziggy on Oct 12, 2010 9:52:56 GMT
Words fail me LP. You have been through so much, you should have the support oif your family!
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Post by beachbum12 on Oct 12, 2010 10:01:25 GMT
I wish there was something I could do, all I can do is say this Your bright bright beautiful little Angel Jamie is looking down on you from heaven above every second of every day , his spirit cuddles up to you in your grief and is by your side constantly , he loves you you love him , that love is enduring for all of eternity and will never ever die. Life, on this sometimes so cruel and evil earth is gone in a whisker , hold onto the knowledge that one day you and your beautiful boy will be together again properly not just in a spiritual sense as you are now. Love never dies , no you will NEVER EVER move on from this , you have no need to , that bond will always be there and when this life on this earth is over you and Jamie will be reunited together for ever xxxx stay strong beautiful lady and know that your horsegossip family think of you every day and are here for you xxxxx God bless you Sam and hubby to get through these awful times and give you strength xxxx  |
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Post by crazyshetlandlady on Oct 12, 2010 10:39:03 GMT
*Hugs* xx
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Post by princessstacie22 on Oct 12, 2010 10:58:15 GMT
he has removed everything on there now lp. xxxx
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Post by victoria (highhill) on Oct 12, 2010 18:07:49 GMT
Just thought I would let everyone know that I have had a reply from Scott Langham from the PCC - I am sure you will all have had one as well. It was a lovely, personal and well wriiten letter. I have tried to copy and paste it onto here but i cant seem to get it to work? His reply talked about the self regulating authority which the press subscribe to, sadly  is not one of the 98% who subscribe to this. He said he was pleased to see that all information relating to Jamie had been removed from the website, he hoped this would make things a little easier for the family. |
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Post by brindlerainbow on Oct 12, 2010 18:22:22 GMT
Thats good HH that you had a nice reply.I hadnt complained yet was going to do it this evening ( had a rush rosettes job to finish!!! ) but looks like there isn't any point now if he dosent subscribe to it.At least he has removed all of the stuff causing LP and her family such upset
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Post by aphrodite on Oct 12, 2010 19:49:04 GMT
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Post by hatman on Oct 12, 2010 23:11:46 GMT
LP families can behave so badly sometimes when we need then the most to understand and be there for us.
My dad phoned me when my daughter had been rushed into hospital having a bad asthma attack which he saw and had a go at me as he had to look after my other children and my oh had gone out. My oh was in cornwal and we were in hampshire so he could not have had them any way. It would have been nice if he had said dont worry about the girls we will look after them but no!!!!!I think family members are from another planet sometimes. He did say sorry the next day as my mum had a go at him he said he was stressed at seeing his gradaughter so ill!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sending big hugs to you hope you are getting through each day just when you are getting stronger someone/thing pulls you back down XXXXXXXXX
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Post by sageandonion on Oct 13, 2010 8:54:38 GMT
I have but don't have any family either LP, wouldn't even occur to me to contact them for help or support.
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I started reading this thread with the thought that your brother probably thought he was helping, but I can't understand why it took so much pleading for him to delete the articles.
is not one of the 98% who subscribe to this. He said he was pleased to see that all information relating to Jamie had been removed from the website, he hoped this would make things a little easier for the family. 
