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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2010 6:22:28 GMT
Why do certain members of my family, always seem to kick me when I am down?
My friends on HG and local friends, have been fantastic through my recent tradegy. My neighbours and people in the village that dont even know me, have rallied round and protected me from the press etc, without even being asked.
So why then, is it the closest family members, that should be ultra sensitive to my wishes, that disregard them and do the opposite?
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Post by brindlerainbow on Oct 9, 2010 7:12:33 GMT
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Post by daizylindsay on Oct 9, 2010 7:44:25 GMT
:-( not much to suggest really. Keep strong and keep looking at jamies total they are the people who care and count. Sometimes family doesn't always mean much. Big hugs x
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Post by eskvalleystud on Oct 9, 2010 7:57:30 GMT
massive hugs LP, sometimes the closest to us hurt us the most, can you not tell them how they are making you feel? they really should understand though and be making life as easy as it can be for you, not that it is
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Post by Julie(luke3) on Oct 9, 2010 7:58:14 GMT
LP You know what they say..... you can choose your friends but not your family!! Unfortunately it's very true xxxx I am so sorry that someone has upset you so much xx  |
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Post by PennyP4 on Oct 9, 2010 9:29:00 GMT
Bloody families! I have a rubbish family and have learnt to just rely on my fab hubby and wonderful friends. Stay strong, you are a wonderful person having a very hard time, hug Sam and your OH close and treasure the fab times you had and will have again.
Sending you much love xxx
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Post by viking on Oct 9, 2010 10:55:39 GMT
Because family members are apt to assume they know you better than you know yourself, and that they also know what's best for you.
Hugs.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2010 12:00:24 GMT
Well I agree that  thinks he knows best, but giving photos of MY SON and a TV interview, against my strict instructions of NO COMMENT being the only comment made, seems unforgiveable to me? What he said in the interview is also absolute CRAP, talking about moving on.... Excuse me, but I am never going to MOVE ON from Jamie !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! How dare he ? |
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Post by brindlerainbow on Oct 9, 2010 12:09:55 GMT
My OH heard him in a radio interview the other day. Try and put the unsupportive family to the very back of your mind. It sounds like you have a wonderful dad as well as your OH and Sam  Your HG family will continue to support you................ |
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Post by pencaedu on Oct 9, 2010 12:13:04 GMT
So sad for you - you really don't need this on top of what you're going through anyway. Is there no way of getting a 'silencing order' on him?
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Post by sageandonion on Oct 9, 2010 12:27:05 GMT
How horrible. I had come across an article written by your brother and had presumed it was with your authority. Is this your brother who is in that line of work?
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Post by viking on Oct 9, 2010 12:28:47 GMT
So he wanted some limelight did he lovepink? I hope not, but against your expressed wishes it is unforgivable, and to be quite honest, I don't think in your shoes I would ever be able to forgive him!
Of course you wont move on. No one ever could. You will be able to put it to the back of your mind so that it doesn't intrude so heavily on your day, eventually. Other than that, in my experience, it will always be with you. You will however learn to cope.
My thoughts are with you. More hugs.
ps. Sorry can't help with radio interview. I don't know when it was on.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2010 12:38:07 GMT
Could you tell me when the radio interview was please?
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Post by brindlerainbow on Oct 9, 2010 12:50:43 GMT
LP soon as OH is back I will find out, I think it was last week, will let you know
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Post by sageandonion on Oct 9, 2010 14:11:07 GMT
Now don't you be wasting emotions and energy on this. I am doing that on your behalf, I am so angry I cannot tell you.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2010 14:45:36 GMT
Please can someone find out what the radio interview was about? What was said about my son?
I am very upset about all this, so need to decide what action to take?
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Post by princessstacie22 on Oct 9, 2010 17:58:57 GMT
LP. If you give me his address i will gladley go and punch his lights out for you if you wish. He should be absolutly ashamed of himself. This is well below the belt and you should definitly not stand for it. May i suggest you get somebody else to deal with it though? You really shouldn't have to deal with such a bad thing when we are trying to deal with this all and focusing on something so negative may do you more harm than good. We should be focusing on positive things and getting yourself feeling more positive too. I am so sorry to hear this though xxx
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2010 18:11:40 GMT
I have rung my dad asking him to get to STOP talking about Jamie and STOP posting things about him and to STOP using him as some sort of publicity tool. I told him, if he didnt get him to stop immediately and remove all the information he has posted on his blogs etc, I would seek legal advice....... Tomorrow there will be one almighty row, I have no doubt, but I will not back down. NO COMMENT means NO COMMENT of any bloody sort - it does not mean numerous radio and TV interviews that I know nothing about does it? |
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Post by upsydaisy on Oct 9, 2010 19:42:19 GMT
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Post by upsydaisy on Oct 9, 2010 19:50:42 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2010 19:55:21 GMT
thank you upsydaisy xx
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Post by victoria (highhill) on Oct 9, 2010 20:20:00 GMT
I'd have to say i was a little surprised when I read that he said you were moving on . As someone else has said you can choose your friends but not your family . Stay strong (well as much as is possible) xx
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Post by Julie(luke3) on Oct 9, 2010 20:22:06 GMT
Upsydaisy, what wonderful pictures xxx LP Stay strong x |
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Post by sageandonion on Oct 9, 2010 21:16:46 GMT
LP could you be able to ignore the barstidette, if we all cyberly got together at an appointed time, as we do now and again, but this time we just spat green sludge at him or similar.
I just think this further stress is majorly damaging for you.
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Post by brindlerainbow on Oct 9, 2010 21:30:28 GMT
Send him a troll snot parcel........................
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Post by sageandonion on Oct 9, 2010 21:32:09 GMT
Great idea brindle. How about hobbling him by his balls and then lunging him?
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Post by brindlerainbow on Oct 9, 2010 21:35:16 GMT
Yes I think that would teach him a lesson, maybe tie his balls to his ears then jab him up the arse with a pig prodder......................
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Post by thecremellosociety on Oct 9, 2010 22:14:17 GMT
its awful xxxxx Massive hugs you can choose your freinds but not your family have to say i would maybe not been as tacful as legal advice, but might need a restraining order on myself ......... sorry but its sick thats his nephew you will never get over but you will just maybe learn to deal with it a little more each day, he has no right, im fuming for you xx
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Post by sageandonion on Oct 9, 2010 22:14:49 GMT
Oh yes! Dazy is good with a pig prodder. Mind you, I doubt he actually has any balls.
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Post by Ziggy on Oct 9, 2010 23:22:16 GMT
LP just out of curiosity does your brother have children? moving on... not really quite the right words i'd say. not sure how or if you could ever 'move on' from such a loss. sorry your brother is being so insensitive. I still wish I could think of words to help but there truly are no words. definitely big hugs.
totally agree you can choose your friends...
I had massive fall out with my brother afteer my mum died, still have no contact 6 years on. hope you and your brother could sort things out??
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thinks he knows best, but giving photos of MY SON and a TV interview, against my strict instructions of NO COMMENT being the only comment made, seems unforgiveable to me?
