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Post by thecremellosociety on Oct 26, 2007 7:23:37 GMT
Thanks for that  i had 50 + other week but as i say a certain few folk who i just dont get along with stalk me to here to smite me, but im really not bothered at least i give them sommat to moan about and make them feel better by smiting me .......some people take graet pleasure in pressing a key on the board if that makes them happy lol |
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Post by dont i know on Oct 26, 2007 12:01:00 GMT
Dont i know about true friendship
After years of being inseprable, you get dropped and ignored from that day on, not even an explanation as to what you were ment to have done, nothing suprizes me anymore, like others i keep my head down and do the best i can, luckly I continued winning this year on my own, so grass is not always greener on the other side.
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Post by nochance on Oct 26, 2007 19:09:15 GMT
I have found horsey friends are best kept to associate level. How true! Good friends are few and far between  |
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Post by nickiop on Oct 27, 2007 14:32:14 GMT
Emma - Honesty is always the best policy! And good on you for living by that rule . Worse of all are people who tell lyes to get others into trouble now that is something I really really have issues with as being on the receiving end it just aint nice! Human nature folks will beleive what they are told but when what they are told is not true it causes also sorts of problems and issues between people who never had issues before and rightfully shouldnt have issues as the problme has only been created by someone elses imagination! Therefore I judge all people for myself until they do something to spurn me, it takes an awful lot for me to lose my rag I'm very much easy come easy go and to me showing is all about friends and having fun! Its a shame there are an awful lot of folks out there who do not share this sentiment!
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Post by jj on Dec 31, 2007 23:09:01 GMT
I also believe honesty is the best policy,.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
I am always getting into trouble with folk as they aske me for my opinion, and they don't like what I say.
But with me what you see is what you get.
but it is far better having a conversation with some-one who is true-full and honest. and with that my I wish you all Emma, Shellyj, don't I know, nochance, and nickiop. A HAPPY NEW YEAR. and GOOD LUCK ON SHOWING FOR 2008. and look forward to seeing you all at the shows..
jeni.
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Post by shelleyj on Jan 1, 2008 9:02:11 GMT
And a happy and fun new year to you all!
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Post by nickiop on Jan 9, 2008 16:45:42 GMT
Happy new year to you see you at Barleyfields
Nxx
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Post by Dosierosie on Jun 16, 2008 15:30:35 GMT
I have had a lot of trouble with so called friends at the minute some horsey poeple are just horrible nasty people nd dont care if they rip you off ...like some i no they are back stabbers and i no how much they sl*g other people off aswell its not nice at all some times it makes me wonder if some people have horses to have call and sl*g people off coz like some people i no not mentioning no names is exactly like that!! They will act all nice but then rip you off and slag you off nd wen you move away from them or watever they still dont leave you alone always txtin you some people need to get a grip of tehre lifes nd find something better to do than harrass people well anyway im happy wer i am in life now and no one is guna bring me down from that !!!!!!!!!
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Post by squirrel on Jun 17, 2008 6:03:20 GMT
Oh dear dosierosie, you sound like you have had a terrible time!!!
I know exactly what you mean though. I to have had the same problem with certain people who I thought were friends. It's amazing how people can lie to your face when you have helped them loads. But in my case good riddens to bad rubbish. I always say they needed me far more than Iwould ever have needed them.
In my case it actually worked out for the best as I now dont get mithered to death and can now spend more time getting my own horses ready for shows instead of running about doing their's.
I find especially in the horse/showing world you have very few REAL/TRUE friends and lots of Idiots.
Don't worry I am sure the other people involved arn't.
If I knew how to give you a Karma I would, (Sounds like you need one).
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Post by queensland on Jun 17, 2008 12:51:17 GMT
i must say totally agree with all of you im one of these people that go out of my way for my so called friends and they just end up sh****ng all over me they will ring me up when they want something but when i call them just for a general chit chat they cant get rid of you quick enough my husband is always moaning at me saying cant you see they are just using you there was one inparticular that kept ringing me asking to advertise horses on the internet and i was paying for the ads and never got the money back and i will not ask for it because i dont think i should have to and then you get a phone call are you coming round for a cuppa you say yes and they say oh pick some milk up and then you end up getting a shopping list and dont get paid for that either it makes me sick now i dont ring them and wait and see how long it is before they get intouch with me not that fussed if they dont i can do without people like that in my life i have enough to do as it is with out worrying about them
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Post by armada on Jun 17, 2008 13:50:13 GMT
I've dropped so many so called friends like hot bricks I've lost count. I cant understand why people get a kick out of smiling in your face, being all matey-matey, then stabbing you in the back. What are they lacking in their lives?
One particular person ran me down anytime I spoke to her about some good news I'd got, and then sat back and watched the show as my phone number was distributed round most of the men in the South-East hunting circuit and I was fielding calls from all sorts of dubious married and gruesome single men keen to take me out. An ex-boyfriend was behind it, but he was a good friend of hers, and she knew all about it, but was all 'thats awful' when I told her what was going on. I felt humiliated by the whole thing, and badly let down by my so called friend.
I'm not one to wish nasty things on anybody, but another woman, who's yard we kept the ponies on, was at one time a friend but also a terrible control freak, would blow hot and cold. Let me move into her very large house for 3 months 'til our place was completed, then chucked me out after a month for no reason, but was then nice as pie afterwards. I kept saying she's such a cow, I hope her little world comes tumbling down, she deserves a bit of hardship.
Four months later, she discovered her husbands many trips to the east included liasons with a certain type of lady (she found photos he'd conveniently left lying around, think he wanted rid of her) and she left and moved into a nasty dank little place as it was all she could afford, they eventually sold this crappy dressage horse they'd bought in Holland for an £11,000 loss, and it had been valued at £25,000 as part of her divorce settlement. I could not wipe the smile off my face. What goes around comes around, and as I walk away from these awful people for the sake of my dignity, I think its only a matter of time, and just hope I'm there to see it.
The two rock solid people in my life have been with me through thick and thin, I love them both dearly, and have known my college friend Mel for 27 years, and John (L'uomo Vogue as he's so handsome) for 22 years.
Apart from my mum, they are the only friends I have found I need, we may not see each other for a year or two, but regular phone calls and emails, and we pick up the thread just where we left off, its like we were sitting having a brew at the kitchen table last week.
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Post by thecremellosociety on Jun 17, 2008 15:12:29 GMT
One for all and all for one, keep myself to my self, im not a sheep, i will go where i want to go do what i want to do, and so long as me and mine are ok, thats fine by me. I will now only help when asked, and if something obviously wrong or in danger i will sort it, but found best policy is keep myself to myself unless asked, done so much for folk over the years and get very little thanks for it, all the giving and not a simple thankyou, ive turned it around that i look after me and my own  |
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Post by thecremellosociety on Jun 17, 2008 15:20:56 GMT
Armarda after reading yours,i had a freind similar, did wonders and shat cumbers,had all what she wanted, the car we wanted the tack we wanted, i was never green eyed, but did have a place in the back of my mind where you think hmmmmm wouldnt it be nice, well that persons got caught out, now has a kid in a grotty house a knackered horse who prob wont ever get to use its old saddle and a banger of a car now the sugar daddy left. We have struggled, we have always paid our bills and debts and always worried about money, you never have enough, but im now the one whose OH has a better car than the one she had, a fab pony that i waited 4 years for, but am reaping rewards, whatever tack and rugs i like rather than just the cheapest, dont get me wrong i work vouluntarily ( deserve a big salary if paid !!!) my partner supports us, i never have any money left prior to pay day, but we have a paid for roof over our head, and food in the cupboard and his lordships has his coffee and cigarettes then we do ok |
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Post by wendbarry1 on Jun 17, 2008 23:45:03 GMT
My dear departed Dad once told me "never have a friend who hasn't got what you have, if they haven't got it they'll want yours!" Never a truer word said about the horse world !!!
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Post by wandbarry1 on Jun 18, 2008 14:28:15 GMT
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Post by armada on Jun 18, 2008 16:07:34 GMT
My dear departed Dad once told me "never have a friend who hasn't got what you have, if they haven't got it they'll want yours!" Never a truer word said about the horse world !!! That sounds just like my brother and his awful wife! |
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Post by halfpass on Jun 18, 2008 20:16:43 GMT
Christ armada I have on of those just my brother is as awful as his wife still haven't spoken to the for 7yrs as my dear old dad used to say "I wouldn't cross the road and pee in his ear if his head was on fire"
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Post by wendbarry1 on Jun 18, 2008 21:39:31 GMT
"Keep your friends close and your enemies even closer!"
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Post by anotherdeal1 on Jun 19, 2008 8:31:13 GMT
echo that stabbed in the back my best friend turned out to be a nightmare too she wanted my husband my kids and my horses she basically wanted my life and she did her best to get it, bit scary felt like i was caught up in some horror movie!! turned my life upside down for a while but like you say life has to go on |
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Post by Milliesmum on Jun 19, 2008 8:49:32 GMT
Crikey, I must be one of the lucky ones, I don't have many friends but the ones I do have are true friends who I know I can rely on 100% in a crisis, and they know I would do the same for them. What goes around comes around, they have been very good to me and I would be there for them in an instant if they needed me.
The others I class as acquaintances, nice people, the coffee and a chat kind, but you know who your true friends are.
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Post by halfpass on Jun 19, 2008 11:07:24 GMT
I'm with you MM very lucky with friends most of which I have had around for the last 20yrs it's just my family that are a complete waste of space, at my fathers funeral I had to wear a tin hat and a flack jacket, haven't seen or spoken to them since. Well I did have a phone call once from a niece who wanted to borrow some money (which I lent her) and I haven't heard a willyie-bird since, still they say a fool and his money are easily parted.
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Post by Milliesmum on Jun 19, 2008 13:11:23 GMT
They say friends are the family you choose for yourself . . . .
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Post by screamers on Jun 19, 2008 14:51:02 GMT
My dear departed Dad once told me "never have a friend who hasn't got what you have, if they haven't got it they'll want yours!" Never a truer word said about the horse world!!! how true is that just had that experience friends and horses don't mix with some people  some people stab themselves in the back oh well as you say life goes on
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Post by wendbarry1 on Jun 19, 2008 15:16:23 GMT
anotherdeal, what a nightmare! Had a "friend" like that, she got my husband but no way was she getting ponies!!!!!!!!
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Post by Milliesmum on Jun 19, 2008 15:24:26 GMT
LOL glad to see someone's got their priorities sorted!
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Post by Milliesmum on Jun 20, 2008 7:02:34 GMT
Can see where you're coming from. But I had some very tough times about 18 months ago, when my husband was seriously ill, he collapsed without warning with a cardiac arrest and is very lucky still to be with us. These friends were fantastic, looking after me and my children, driving me to the hospital at all hours, feeding my kids, and countless other little things which helped me to get through with my sanity intact. I think you only find out who your true friends are when something terrible happens, and yes my family were fantastic as well, but knowing how important they all were to me, I will never forget and thats why I would be there for them at the drop of a hat.
I'm so sorry that your friend treated you so badly, but please don't lose faith in human nature, there are plenty of decent people out there!
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Post by thecremellosociety on Jun 20, 2008 7:11:47 GMT
I have a freind at the mo only the same age as me, nicest person you could want to meet, do anything genuinley for anyone, has suspected leukiemia, life is just not fair, why dont these rotters that are in prison get things like this, it distresses me inside, i still feel awful about another freind who died after our show in 2005, i had rang him up to see if he was coming etc, and he passed away that night, noone was to know and i take comfort in the fact he had a good time that day and basically went quick and didnt suffer, but still chokes me up to this day why the decent folk die young. I take comfort in i know who are real freinds, not that i have many as i tend not to get to close to anyone through lack of trust and having been crapped on in the past, but when asked i will do anything for people ( as im finding out this weekend being the busiest of my life and still have an extra 5 horses to check as they are all away on hols !!!) and know who i can rely on to help me out when needed.
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Post by irish on Jun 26, 2008 21:01:38 GMT
I think you have very few "true friends" there are many people I have known who have used me  but I now realise that they are just users who in the end cannot do anything for themselves??? I would always help those who are struggling or maybe just starting out but am careful now how far I go in helping people as eventually you get stabbed in the back by people you classed as friends. |
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Post by creampuff on Jun 27, 2008 12:03:50 GMT
A little tip, if you wanna keep your friends dont win. It is amazing how much the knives come out if you start being successful.  |
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Post by wendbarry1 on Jun 27, 2008 16:23:36 GMT
You're right! Love the kitty!!!
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i had 50 + other week but as i say a certain few folk who i just dont get along with stalk me to here to smite me, but im really not bothered at least i give them sommat to moan about and make them feel better by smiting me .......some people take graet pleasure in pressing a key on the board if that makes them happy lol
but I now realise that they are just users who in the end cannot do anything for themselves??? I would always help those who are struggling or maybe just starting out but am careful now how far I go in helping people as eventually you get stabbed in the back by people you classed as friends. 