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Post by cuckoo on Jul 23, 2008 1:11:05 GMT
crikey this is getting really fun!! Whips, slapping, banging (nails he said!?!) Where can we find half pass? Must look up our show schedues for Staffordshire - anyone live up there who knows him??
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Post by dun4u on Jul 23, 2008 9:19:16 GMT
It seems we've veered away from the original theme of this thread - perhaps that is because we enjoy the light, cheeky banter on here, which you wouldn't get with friends who aren't friends. I think I've discovered how halfpass finances his showing - he's always said he likes pink!! uk.youtube.com/watch?v=RDZoaM34RHs |
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Post by halfpass on Jul 23, 2008 13:30:30 GMT
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Post by Milliesmum on Jul 23, 2008 15:48:33 GMT
It's all Halfpass's fault, he's a bad influence on me!  |
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Post by pigsear on Jul 23, 2008 16:07:12 GMT
Well I think you are all as bad as one another  You must behave in a correct manner like they taught me at naughty boys boarding school!!! Whips and spurs and any other inappropriate equipment not used for its sole purpose should be illegalised (if that is such a word!!) But if you still want to be my friend let me know dont follow my advice above......... learn to live it hard!!!! |
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Post by halfpass on Jul 23, 2008 16:42:28 GMT
I always get the blame for everything, I just load the gun it's the others that fire the bullets, and they are suposed to be freinds.
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Post by chickadee on Aug 11, 2008 22:56:55 GMT
  I totally agree Kizzy and i know exactly what you are talking about !! THERE ARE VERY FEW GENUINE PEOPLE IN THIS SAD OLD WORLD BUT WE KNOW SOME REAL GOOD PEOPLE WHO I THINK WOULD HELP IN AN EMERGENCY AND REMEMBER MONEY DOES NOT MAKETH THE PERSON!! ALTHOUG IT DOES GIVE CERTAIN PEOPLE ALOT OF POWER!!UNFORTUNATELY
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Post by sabrina on Sept 28, 2008 22:24:14 GMT
Life is so short and when you loose a good mate it is sad but sometimes people and children just do not like the friendship you have and will do anything to upset it so very sad .
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Post by malarkin on Sept 29, 2008 18:07:40 GMT
Try moving to a 'nice little place in the country'. People that you had bare contact with 'are just passing'. They arrive empty handed and use everything and watch you work.
True friends stay in touch, arrive with goodies and help, they do practical things and know that there are things to be done and that the animals dont feed and muck them selves out. The best friends arrive with muck boots and a smile whatever the weather.
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Post by dipsey on Sept 29, 2008 21:32:31 GMT
Hope you dont mind me having afew words,beenreading through some of your Re:Friends who aren't Friends,and I would like to say how lucky I am,a true friend is a very special person I have in my life.Wee were friends as teenagers and wee stayed friends until we had our first child. THen as you do drift a part doing other things in life. But then after 15 years our paths crossed again when I got into horses again. Now we share a small yard together with 5 stables on it, and we help each other all the time. I have more committments than my friend,so she helps me more than I her,and she is truly a lovely.lovely person and nothink is too much trouble too her.I think I'm truly blessed having a friend like her. Everybody deserves a true friend like mine.I'd like to think I will be there for her anytime she needs me.
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Post by columbine on Sept 29, 2008 22:27:16 GMT
I had a good friend 25 years ago when our children first started with ponies. We had a disagreement and have only spoken to each other twice in the past 20 years. Today, at the age of 52 she died of cancer. Oh how I wish I could put the years back.
I am older and wiser now and today made me realise we are not immortal, me thinking I might bump into her again at some time, and we would be friends again. It won't happen now. Life is too short and make the best of the friends you have got.
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Post by ponymum on Sept 30, 2008 12:28:08 GMT
I had a good friend 25 years ago when our children first started with ponies. We had a disagreement and have only spoken to each other twice in the past 20 years. Today, at the age of 52 she died of cancer. Oh how I wish I could put the years back. I am older and wiser now and today made me realise we are not immortal, me thinking I might bump into her again at some time, and we would be friends again. It won't happen now. Life is too short and make the best of the friends you have got. Feel for you columbine.....just think, she will know what you are feeling and that you wished you could turn back time...Think of the good times you had together and perhaps you shouldnt be too hard on yourself xx |
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Post by lebruja on Sept 30, 2008 21:38:06 GMT
I found myself losing a so called `friend`last year as I had known this person for near on 19 years I thought I new her, but sadly I didn't. well i did know she was selfish & inconsiderate, but it didn't really affect me as I didn't see her that much, it only affected me when she moved back to the area I have seen & heard things I will never forgive her for. it hasn't just affected me but my family too   getting back into horses I also saw a ruthless side to her, she changed & became a totally different person & IMO is only friends with people she thinks will benefit or give her something but I now feel that I never knew this person & that our friendship was a mockery. I then blundered onto another bad friendship at the beginning of this year I really should have MUG tattooed on my head, as this person really saw me coming she just seemed so nice & we helped with her ponies. her friends & YO even warned me about her  , but I like to make up my own mind. any way I got really stung & she sold me a pony that wasn't suitable for my child & charged me well over what the pony was really worth we then fell out as she had fell out with a lady & wanted me to do the same  any way we live & learn, I am just so grateful that I do have a true friend who has for the last 14 years been a true friend. we have been through so much together, & I am truly blessed to know her, so not every one is bad & I do believe things happen for a reason, even when we are reduced to tears on a daily basis ( this was me last year ) it makes us better people! & so much wiser! so although I now find it hard to trust I really don't want to become a pessimist, I would like eventually to see the good in people & not have that nagging doubt |
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Post by OneFriendLess on Oct 1, 2008 16:10:42 GMT
I too have lost someone I considered to be a close friend through greed and complete selfishness!
I showed her pony for her last season AT MY OWN EXPENSE because she said she would never ride in the show ring but wanted to pony to be shown. We had a verbal agreement that if he got any qualifiers then I would ride him at the finals, which I did, at the summer champs.
This year came and due to commitments with my own ponies, it was agreed that I would only do the big qualifiers with him. He got his ticket for one of the big finals so we were all thrilled..................
2 days later she sent me a PM through a MESSAGE BOARD, not even a phone call or a face to face conversation, to tell me that she was going to ride him at the final herself!
Needless to say I was devastated, and undescribably angry. I feel this woman (not friend) used me to get her ticket to the top. It is all still very raw and painful to me and I will never forgive her for this betrayal of our friendship and my trust.
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Post by dipsey on Oct 11, 2008 15:50:27 GMT
OneFriendLess THat is the saddest title Ive read in a long long time sorry to hear your story, hope your getting over that so called friend, its her loss of a good friendship.
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Post by ponylover1 on Oct 12, 2008 8:55:40 GMT
It seems we've veered away from the original theme of this thread - perhaps that is because we enjoy the light, cheeky banter on here, which you wouldn't get with friends who aren't friends. I think I've discovered how halfpass finances his showing - he's always said he likes pink!! uk.youtube.com/watch?v=RDZoaM34RHsI love the Video.  |
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Post by Disappointed on Oct 24, 2008 18:45:57 GMT
I recently lost my horse and I thought my close so called 'horsey' friends would be there to support me through it- as they were the only people who could really appreciate everything i had been through. How wrong I was. After a couple of messages enquiring how i was they were quick to carry on with their lives and their horses and seemed to forget about me after a very short space of time. However, my 'non-horsey' friends and work colleagues were a massive support- making sure i was ok and doing really thoughtful things so I knew they were thinking about me. I feel guilty now as I underestimated them and thought they would not understand..again how wrong I was. Atleast I am lucky enough to have them in my life!  |
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Post by dun4u on Oct 24, 2008 21:31:35 GMT
disappointed - sorry to hear how saddened you were by the loss of your horse and your so-called horsey friends. Your story may have a moral behind it: we tend to think of our un-horsey friends as acquaintances who have no interest in horses and therefore do not understand our feelings about them. (We think) they just put up with us and smile kindly when we go on about our weekend at a show or what the vet said about the bump which suddenly appeared BUT we grossly under-estimate them. They are there for you when it matters because they each have different varying interests and do like to hear how you got on at the show, etc. Whereas - many of our so-called horsey friends are so wrapped up in the own horse(s) that they may, just for a short while, sympathize with you at your loss, and then get on with their own self-absorbed life, thanking God it wasn't they who lost their best equine friend. In the horsey world I'm afraid there is often a lot of bit*hiness and even jealousy - something like this probably embarrasses them. Horsey people often give the impression they are hard nuts - they can't be seen to show too much emotion. Stiff upper lip etc.; 'she'll soon get over it'. Which is why we must never take our friends for granted. Those people who we only see at work, sometimes only now and again, can often come up trumps when you'd least expect it.  |
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Post by sallyw on Oct 26, 2008 15:56:11 GMT
For eight years now I have been having the dog of a so called frriend to stay whilst they go on Carribbean cruises and the like. Last time she stayed here she attacked one of my dogs biting her really badly, the day before her owners were due to come back. When I told them what had happened, they changed completely. No more nice friends - all they could think about was where they would send the dog when the go to Australia for a month a Christmas! They have not been in touch at all since they came back - not even to enquire how my dog is, offer to pay the vets bill and so on. I am no good to them now we will not have the dog so they havn't got to keep up the pretence of friendship any longer.
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Post by Fed up on Oct 27, 2008 9:40:24 GMT
Isnt it funny how you think poeple are your close friends when they need you for something, yet as soon as that need is no longer there you get dropped like a lead balloon!!! Out of sight out of mind as they say...... and never a truer word spoken!! Feeling very used and abused currently!!! |
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Post by wendbarry1 on Oct 27, 2008 10:02:28 GMT
My dear departed Dad once told me "never have a friend who hasn't got what you have, if they haven't got it they'll want yours!" Never a truer word said about the horse world !!! |
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Post by pigsear on Oct 27, 2008 12:34:23 GMT
I'd be anyones friend........ and I'm quite a nice person!! |
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Post by sallyw on Oct 27, 2008 13:27:29 GMT
I'd give you the telephone number of the people with the dog who needs somewhere to stay at Christmas - but then again I wouldnt wish such shallow users on anyone.
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Post by Old raver on Oct 29, 2008 22:59:35 GMT
I have read through the very sad tales of all you horsey chaps and chapettes and realise that its in every corner or the country and not just where I come from, I started to think all the users, abusers and back stabbers were in the the East but looks as if we all have them after all. I have to agree with one of the first comments on this thread that the said persons children however old are usually Olympic quality riders, even though they would have no idea that you do have to move your body whilst sitting on a horse and not be completely rigid, the mother is usually a fully qualified slagger off but due to the fact she has been through so many people in this field she is now a professional home producer!
Did you know this entitles her to tell your child to f*** o** but if you dare make a comment about her precious daughter who is now a grown up woe be tied...... she can use you, abuse you, slag you off to all and sundry, the dangerous thing is too is they seem to know your business too, so when you fall out they usually want to stick the knife in and ring round the council, tax office and any one else they think might be interested in what they have to say despite the fact that actually they are the ones with a bad history of debt and bad credit, living on tick and making every one think that they are a straight forward, law abiding citizen. This type of person would think nothing of causing trouble wherever she goes leaving a trail of destruction and usually bad debts every where. AND we still seem to let them back into our lives and forget the first, second and third time they S*** on us and rubbed it in......
Here here to all the sayings in this thread they are so true. Your best friend is the one who takes you for what you are and not what you've got, or what horse you ride or what horse box you drive......
I hope the person I am referring too reads this thread, lol but I forgot they have no conscience so it wouldn't matter I suppose.
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Post by wendbarry1 on Oct 30, 2008 1:12:02 GMT
Yet another guest who's fed up with their mates, Why not post in your name, and/or Why not just pick the phone up and tell em? The last post I saw like this on another site caused a lot of trouble, all for the sake of "the adult" not talking to the person concerned. Very sad
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Post by dsmum on Oct 30, 2008 8:40:25 GMT
Thanks everyone - I was absolutely facinated by this thread - I thought I was the only one who felt like this. I was brought up in east london in Dr Barnardoes but I worked hard and have achieved good things including securing a good job with a good salary. Im now called rich bit*h locally although I never flaunt money but admittedly dont let my horses go without. BUT I go to work at 4am and drive 50 miles down little roads, do a days work and drive back again and then do my animals....instead of me(us) feeling sorry why dont we create a friendship link so we can contact and maybe meet up monthly. I live in Kent and would like to meet others of a similiar mind!
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Post by old raver on Oct 30, 2008 10:37:49 GMT
Hi, yes I know I posted as a guest but my login is so obvious and would be detremental to my business so I thought better of it and I agree it does cause trouble more so if the name was splatted all over Horse Gossip. I genuinely read the thread as a normal person not as a business person, and could feel the same hurt in threads written as I felt when a so called friend let you down. So not as to cause trouble on the site I though best to keep as a guest.
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Post by nikki on Oct 31, 2008 6:22:24 GMT
I think this is such a sad and bitter thread. Yes there are always people you may have have let you down but there are also lots of people who are great supports and always there for you. I consider my two aunts as great friends. One helps to exercise/keep an eye on my pony whilst I am at school during the week, the other lives much further away but last year when circumstances changed for me she provided a lovely home for my two youngsters - such a lovely home, in fact, that I would be loathe to take them back now! My school is good - most of us hang round in groups - but the school has a zero tolerance policy on bullying and such like - and we all intergrate pretty well. There are very few people my age at the yard but despite that everyone seems to get on very well and if someone is competing at a show (be it showing, dressage, jumping etc), often a small group will come along to watch and support that person. I think those who feel so angry and bitter about so called friends should try and move on as there are always others who will be true friends.
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Post by dun4u on Oct 31, 2008 10:09:58 GMT
I think this is such a sad and bitter thread. Yes there are always people you may have have let you down but there are also lots of people who are great supports and always there for you. I consider my two aunts as great friends. One helps to exercise/keep an eye on my pony whilst I am at school during the week, the other lives much further away but last year when circumstances changed for me she provided a lovely home for my two youngsters - such a lovely home, in fact, that I would be loathe to take them back now! My school is good - most of us hang round in groups - but the school has a zero tolerance policy on bullying and such like - and we all intergrate pretty well. There are very few people my age at the yard but despite that everyone seems to get on very well and if someone is competing at a show (be it showing, dressage, jumping etc), often a small group will come along to watch and support that person. I think those who feel so angry and bitter about so called friends should try and move on as there are always others who will be true friends. Now isn't that a lesson for us all? Especially coming from someone of the younger generation. Well done, nikki, for being so philosophical (sp?) about things. We should all take a leaf out of your book. |
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getting back into horses I also saw a ruthless side to her, she changed & became a totally different person & IMO is only friends with people she thinks will benefit or give her something 
